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dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Update, I phoned yesterday, nurse said she was just the same and that the doctor would assess her today to see if yhe is medically fit, if so she could be transfered this afternoon. I have to call before lunch to check.
Just a worry now about all the news about care homes not having PPE.
 

canary

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Feb 25, 2014
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South coast
If she came home you would have exactly the same worries @dogdayafternoon
Its impossible to be 100% certain of keeping the virus out, whatever you do, but at least she will be looked after in the care home. I worry about who will look after OH if I get the virus.
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Update, she was moved ok this afternoon to the care home, I took some clothes and toiletries to the home in advance.
The lady I talked to on the phone sonded very caring, a plus point it is only about a 10 minute drive away good for when the lockdown ends, we live in hope.
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Update, Called the nursing home and all is well, she has settled ok but not wearing clothes, I told the nurse she allways slept nude. Still not eating but drinking ok, the nurse was happy with her but the nurse had a persistant cough when she was talking to me which was a little worrying. It's our 51st wedding anniversary on Sunday but she won't remember.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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That sounds quite promising that your wife has settled already , good she is drinking ok, You never know , once she gets to know them all she may start eating again . Happy anniversary for Sunday . How are you doing ?
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Update, the home GP phoned on Thursday having just seen my wife for the first time, I had to give her background as she had not received the notes yet. She thought my wife was bedridden and had a broken ankle, I explained that was healed and it was her arm thay was broken and that up to the last time I could visit her she could walk with a little help, I hope they try to help her to walk or her muscles will waste.
I phoned the home today but the nurse was busy but one of the carers said she had a peaceful night and was happy, just have to hope for the best.
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Update, nursing home say all is well, still in bed, asked if there was anything she needed I could drop off but they said no, feel there must be something but no way to check.
Another thing, have had two letters from the first hospital she was in, the first one last week was an appointment for her in the fracture clinic in June and this morning same hospital an appointment for a telephone consultation on the 4th of May with an osteoporosis nurse specialist. They obviously do not realise she is in the nusing home.
As far as I can check the nursing homes in our are are still safe, only one reported with a virus case so she is in the safest place at present.
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Nursing home called and said I could have a video link so I installed wattsap on my phone and we had a nice long chat, my wife looked well and was conversing more like she woulld have before the fall but the short term memory is worse, she was thinking her mothers friend was still alaive.
Seeing she could handle a call I charged up her phone and installed wattsap on it and dropped it off at the home with some more clothes.
She called on the phone tonight at 6:00 I think the nurse got on for her, just a voice call, she was still well but wanting to know why I was not there, I explained the lock down and she got some of it but still wanted to be with me, I told her another three weeks and she thought that was not so bad but then said she wanted to go to her nan's who has been gone about fifty years. She does not think she is in a home but someones house, anyway pleased to see her and talk a little.
 

Woo2

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Apr 30, 2019
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That’s really nice to hear you have been able to chat and to see your wife , hopefully it can continue well until such time as you can visit .
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
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Now my wife has a phone she has called a couple of times, she is confused, does not know where she is or why I can't come and see her. Yesterday she called while I was shopping for food and I told her what I was doing getting food for dinner, this must have stuck in her mind as she called again later saying she had not been fed and could I bring her a sandwich, I tried to explain she had not been eating and was on protein drinks but I would call the home to check.
The girl on the desk said I would need to check with the nurse and call at 5:30, my wife called again and as I told her I had to call the nurse later the nurse came in the room and answered that my wife had eaten and had some food now for dinner.
I am confused now if my wife is eating normal food why did no one tell me, she sounds better on the phone than she did in hospital but she is still confused about where she is and what is happening and no way for me to check on her diet.
 

dogdayafternoon

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Dec 30, 2017
174
My wife does not know haw to answer her phone unless someone is in her room and does it for her, she does manage to phone me sometimes or I get a row of letters in a rext. After evening calls about 7pm I switch my phone off.
This morning she said i had given another woman a baby and she was going to divorce me, tonight she wanted me to drive there in our car to help her escape and there was some black man walking about, managed to calm her down and got her to watch doc martin on her tv., and so it goes on.
 

Amba34

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Jul 28, 2019
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Just visited now second day, nurse said she has refused food and would not let them take her to the shower. She is still wearing the same things under the hospital gown which is stained.
She was not very happy and confused much more so than I would expect. She has not eaten even a snickers bar I left.
She wants to go somewhere but will not stand up and keeps taking the sling off her arm.
I fear her mental ability has dropped a lot almost overnight and do not know what to expect next.
She will not be allowed home if she can not stand up.

Hi DogDay
I have not yet read all your posts but I will do as soon as I can Im sorry to read about what's happening to you.
My mum was admitted after a fall and has had hip surgery. I know seeing a patient with dementia is exempt from visiting restrictions but only at discretion of ward. They won't let me go in
. End of. I feel they are doing all sorts as if she's got no family. They tell me very little. They are doing a mental health assessment today due to her behaviour. She's has Alzheimers and has not spoke to her family since Sunday after being housebound for several years and then shifted into a strange environment with no family contact. I would need a mental health assessment myself in those circumstances. I know I have a bad attitude over this but I'm shaking with fear after just speaking with them. It's not right - she has family. At my wits end. Keep going and compassionate thoughts to you.