My husband, Tony, had an op for bladder cancer on Thursday and the ward said he was fit to come home yesterday, Saturday. He looked alright but he couldn't produce enough urine when he peed. He is 83 and in mid stage Alz, I am 81. We live an hour from the hospital and I drive to collect him. After waiting 3 hours I wanted to leave as I was getting shakey and afraid that I would not be safe driving. The ward sister got angry and accused me of dumping my husband and said they would decide again in three more hours. I got cross and left! Should I have stayed, the hospital car had left, and I doubted my stamina? Today I will go in again if the ward says he can come home but when I get there if they say he is not ready how long should I wait?