Could anyone advise me of my rights and how to go about dealing with what has happened to my Mum with dementia please?
BACKGROUND: She was admitted to hospital 9 days ago after falling at home. She was CT scanned and a bleed on the brain spotted. Since then she has been on the acute stroke unit. She has lost the sight in one eye, is unable to walk and is very confused and talking words which strung together make no sense.
On Monday of this week she was deemed to be able to be moved to a general ward.
I have been at her bedside all day every day until yesterday when I had to leave early afternoon for an appointment. I returned at 7pm last night. She was very agitated and upset, but because of her inability to use words anymore was unable to tell me why. I asked a nurse why my Mum seemed agitated and was nonchalantly told that at 3.30 another patient on the ward had attacked her, tried to put a tube down her throat and put "ointment" into her! As you can imagine, I was shocked and asked how there could have been a situation where a patient had time to do all this to my Mum without someone on the ward noticing. To which no adequate answer was really given except mumblings about everyone being busy.
I asked to see the written report made by the nurse who witnessed part of the incident. I was told that I was not allowed to see the written notes. I have made an appointment to see my Mum's Consultant today but would like to know if I am entitled to see the notes so that I can go into the meeting forearmed.
As if it wasn't enough to be dealing with the emotions of seeing a loved one in such turmoil, I now have the feeling that when I am not at my Mum's bedside she is in danger.
I feel so emotional - that I might be over-reacting ... please tell me if you think I am. Thank you an extremely anxious carer.
BACKGROUND: She was admitted to hospital 9 days ago after falling at home. She was CT scanned and a bleed on the brain spotted. Since then she has been on the acute stroke unit. She has lost the sight in one eye, is unable to walk and is very confused and talking words which strung together make no sense.
On Monday of this week she was deemed to be able to be moved to a general ward.
I have been at her bedside all day every day until yesterday when I had to leave early afternoon for an appointment. I returned at 7pm last night. She was very agitated and upset, but because of her inability to use words anymore was unable to tell me why. I asked a nurse why my Mum seemed agitated and was nonchalantly told that at 3.30 another patient on the ward had attacked her, tried to put a tube down her throat and put "ointment" into her! As you can imagine, I was shocked and asked how there could have been a situation where a patient had time to do all this to my Mum without someone on the ward noticing. To which no adequate answer was really given except mumblings about everyone being busy.
I asked to see the written report made by the nurse who witnessed part of the incident. I was told that I was not allowed to see the written notes. I have made an appointment to see my Mum's Consultant today but would like to know if I am entitled to see the notes so that I can go into the meeting forearmed.
As if it wasn't enough to be dealing with the emotions of seeing a loved one in such turmoil, I now have the feeling that when I am not at my Mum's bedside she is in danger.
I feel so emotional - that I might be over-reacting ... please tell me if you think I am. Thank you an extremely anxious carer.