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Hospital stay, please advise

Reds

Registered User
Sep 5, 2011
559
Hertfordshire
My husband has Alzheimer's and had a recent hospital stay. I stayed with him for 5 nights as too worried to leave him alone but was too much for me as slept in a chair. A lot of illness on the ward which was mentally draining. Any tips on hospital stays. I have read the fact sheet.

Did I do the right thing by staying with him as not sure he would be checked enough re incontinence or reassured that he is ok. Shortish of nurses.

Reds
 

eyebrows

Registered User
Feb 20, 2018
13
Hey Reds,
My mum has been admitted to hospital a few times and despite constant visits, she escaped twice! It was always the same cause that put her in the hospital, but we had trouble convincing the staff which tests to run and what to check for first. They also didn't seem to believe us when we told them that our mum had dementia and would seem capable and self-assured but probably wouldn't know what was going on. Long story short, she discharged herself once and escaped another time.

I'm sure it was a huge drain on you having to stay the night (for five nights!!) but for your husband's sake, it was probably very reassuring to have you there as someone recognisable in what was I'm sure a very disorientating and confusing scenario. Unfortunately I don't think that there is enough funding, and most hospitals are massively understaffed and pushed to the limits to provide enough care. In terms of advice... I can't be much help, but I do think you did the right thing.
 

nae sporran

Volunteer Host
Oct 29, 2014
6,998
Bristol
Sorry your husband has been in hospital recently Reds, and I hope he is ok now. Not sure I can say you did the right thing or not, you did what you felt he needed at the time and that is all you can do. It's more than I can handle.
Last time my OH was in A&E from 11 am to 9 pm or so, I had to come home for half an hour, which actually made for nearly two hours with the return drive. When I got back she was desperate for the toilet and thankfully I got a nurse in time. It's not the nurses fault, they were great. I felt guilty, but was no use to her getting stressed, so that is the constant battle for balance. Our local hospitals are more flexible with visiting hours than they used to be and that does help us as carers to be there or to escape when the pressure gets too much.
Not sure if that is helpful or not.
 

marionq

Registered User
Apr 24, 2013
6,117
Scotland
I went home for a few hours too when John was in for the day. I arrived back in the early evening to find him tucking into fish and chips and vanilla ice cream. Perfectly happy.
 

love.dad.but..

Registered User
Jan 16, 2014
4,536
Kent
I stayed in with dad during 2 lengthy hospital stays as well as his A and E visits. Dad was very agitated...frightened...incoherent..tried to leave the ward etc...so yes for me although chair sleeping was very uncomfortable night after night and my circumstances allowed me to stay with him...18 months after his passing I wouldn't hesitate to do it again. Do what feels right for you.
 

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