Mum has advanced vascular dementia and al the horrors that come with it. She’s been in hospital for 10 days with pneumonia. She has responded well, and her bloods are now almost normal she’s had 5 admissions since September with similar infections. We saw consultant a few days ago and he gently explained she was approaching the end of her life. He said that he didn’t fell it was now right to keep treating these infections as it was delaying the inevitable. So he instructed no more blood tests, or cannulas, to encourage food but never force or insist, if she said no it was no. She is due to be discharged on Monday back to a residential home, I asked about nursing care and he said it didn’t matter where she went the outcome would be the same.
im concerned about them not treating her and wondered if this is normal. Each day is different with her but yesterday she was mum again, at least her eyes told me that. She was animated and vocal . I csnt bear the thought of the next infection being allowed to kill her .
im wondering what experience others have had please ?
i also mentioned chc but they said it made no difference as to nursing or residential care.
lim quite confused, I’m also disabled following horrendous hospital complications , I have 3 stoma bags, I’m wary of hospitals now and I just want what’s right for mum,
she is dou my incintinent, can’t speak or move much and weighs 6 stone but she fights on yet they are saying next time an infection hits we should leave her die.
im concerned about them not treating her and wondered if this is normal. Each day is different with her but yesterday she was mum again, at least her eyes told me that. She was animated and vocal . I csnt bear the thought of the next infection being allowed to kill her .
im wondering what experience others have had please ?
i also mentioned chc but they said it made no difference as to nursing or residential care.
lim quite confused, I’m also disabled following horrendous hospital complications , I have 3 stoma bags, I’m wary of hospitals now and I just want what’s right for mum,
she is dou my incintinent, can’t speak or move much and weighs 6 stone but she fights on yet they are saying next time an infection hits we should leave her die.