Yesterday my husband took his mother for her appointment at the memory clinic where the tests proved that she is getting steadily worse. She is following a pattern that many of you have talked about on here so I cannot express how grateful I am to this forum even though I don't post very often, I do read the posts on it and it has prepared us for the future.Thank you.
However the doctor suggested to my m-i-l that she might like to consider moving nearer to us which she instantly took as moving in with us. The doctor, apparantly, was wonderful and corrected her. She told my m-i-l that she could not expect to move in with us nor for us to move to her. I realise that many of you are caring for relatives in your own homes and may consider us very selfish. I can only apologise. Later on in the day m-i-l told my husband that if she has to go in a home that she will kill herself. I didn't know what to say to him when he told me this or how to comfort him. He is losing the mother he has always thought of as so strong and then she is making threats like this.
She is almost to the point as well, that if anything goes wrong in the house that she is calling us and expecting him to drop everything to go and help her. This isn't always feasible as he is on call for his work and she doesn't like that. He is beginning to feel that, although, his parents wanted him to get on life and get a good job, it's all amounted to nothing in the scale of things.
Also she is so muddled about taking her tablets. I had heard about a service that some-one will go in and supervise her taking them. She lives in Portsmouth. Does anyone know about this and if so, could they give me any details. Thank you.
Kim
However the doctor suggested to my m-i-l that she might like to consider moving nearer to us which she instantly took as moving in with us. The doctor, apparantly, was wonderful and corrected her. She told my m-i-l that she could not expect to move in with us nor for us to move to her. I realise that many of you are caring for relatives in your own homes and may consider us very selfish. I can only apologise. Later on in the day m-i-l told my husband that if she has to go in a home that she will kill herself. I didn't know what to say to him when he told me this or how to comfort him. He is losing the mother he has always thought of as so strong and then she is making threats like this.
She is almost to the point as well, that if anything goes wrong in the house that she is calling us and expecting him to drop everything to go and help her. This isn't always feasible as he is on call for his work and she doesn't like that. He is beginning to feel that, although, his parents wanted him to get on life and get a good job, it's all amounted to nothing in the scale of things.
Also she is so muddled about taking her tablets. I had heard about a service that some-one will go in and supervise her taking them. She lives in Portsmouth. Does anyone know about this and if so, could they give me any details. Thank you.
Kim