I need some help from your experience. i wish I had found this site before. My mum died in Jan, leaving my dad who has AD. They were very private, self contained people. dad is 86 with heart problems and pretty frail, very gentle but no short term memory whatsoever, etc. We have struggled with social services etc for support, but its all about funding. dad is currently in nursing home recovering from collapse. EVERYONE we have had counsel or advice from has tried to discourage us from bringing dad into our home, saying we could not cope etc. But clearly, from the correspondence on this site, this is the norm. Putting aside practicalities (we would need to move / get larger place etc) and emotions (I love my dad), what is best? What are the issues? Why are people against this?