My OH now has a carer for a few hours a week to give me a break. He is kind of ok with it though doesn't really think it is needed. He is usually asleep for a good part of the session. But, I wonder if I am being too picky but I just get the feeling that the carer is Not the slightest bit interested in my OH. I wondered if he -male carer, wasn't that familiar with dementia patients but that is not the case. He hasn't asked me anything about hubby and given that OH wont instigate conversation i had to tell the carer that if he talks to him he is able to respond on a basic level.... AND after the last session i came home to find the tv volume on really low, i would have strained to hear it. So for two hours OH was sitting looking at the tv unable to hear it and unable to say so! I immediately turned it up so the carer knew. Surely this is not rocket science with an elderley man with dementia? However, I am not sure what to do. Do I ring the manager and see if there might be a better match or am I just being hypersensitive (with the guilt monster trying to get out of the box). Any comments much appreciated.