A few months ago we had a letter from the NHS care at home team to tell us that they were introducing 'Zoning' for the all home care in town and that our provider would be changing. Weeks later we were told that we wouldn't be changing after all as our care package was too much for the new company to cover. I've just received a phone call from Care at Home to say that they'll be round on Thursday to discuss the new provider and introduce us to them. *Screams into a pillow* Apparently they want to speak to my in laws about it! I explained the situation and told her that MIL doesn't even know she has carers, just thinks the neighbours are really helpful and that she wouldn't remember the conversation 5 minutes later and that FIL wouldn't follow the conversation and trying to would just distress him. She didn't sound at all convinced and just muttered something about how 'We'll see how it goes'. I can see Thursday being 'interesting'. FIL hasn't slept through the night since he's been back from respite, they psychiatrist still hasn't sorted a prescription and now this carry on. FIL has spent all day shouting for his shoes and demanding to know 'HOW TO GET OUT OF THIS HOUSE!' He's almost fallen more times than I can count today because he's so determined but doesn't have the mobility to back it up. He's currently found his shoes and is trying to put them on. I'd love to say I'm looking forward to bed time, but he doesn't sleep so it makes no difference. Last night he disconnected his night bag 4 times. 4 bed changes. Then insisted at 4am that 'Someone has died! Don't you understand? I have to put the death notice in. I'm the secretary! You're going to get me INTO TROUBLE!' I've tried the 'I'm not discussing this' tactic. It just makes things worse. Sometimes I can just agree with things in a non-committal kind of way, but on occasions like that when agreeing would mean getting him up and then... well I don't know what then I have to resort to trying to talk sense into him. Not easy and it makes me feel like I'm just being mean. Anyway, consider me momentarily purged.