Having come to the end of my tether with my mum I have had to put her in a home for a trial. I was planning to do live in care but she was adamant that she didn't want someone living in her house.
My brother took her in as I just knew I wouldn't be able to leave her there. It was a struggle and there were tears and tantrums but we've managed the first night. I am dreading going to see her today as I know she will ask me to take her home. It is a nice care home but I am wondering if I should have pushed for live in care instead. I guess there are pros and cons for each and I know it is generally thought that Alzheimer's sufferers should try and stay in their own home. I live close by so she won't be left in the care home all day (she is very mobile so I will be keeping her active and I will continue to take her out and about) She was always a very sociable person so I was hoping in a care home there would be lots of people to chat to as opposed to one live in carer.
However I can't stop thinking and worrying about her and if this decision is the right one. I know it's early days and the next few days are probably going to be the worst.
Any thoughts gratefully received.
My brother took her in as I just knew I wouldn't be able to leave her there. It was a struggle and there were tears and tantrums but we've managed the first night. I am dreading going to see her today as I know she will ask me to take her home. It is a nice care home but I am wondering if I should have pushed for live in care instead. I guess there are pros and cons for each and I know it is generally thought that Alzheimer's sufferers should try and stay in their own home. I live close by so she won't be left in the care home all day (she is very mobile so I will be keeping her active and I will continue to take her out and about) She was always a very sociable person so I was hoping in a care home there would be lots of people to chat to as opposed to one live in carer.
However I can't stop thinking and worrying about her and if this decision is the right one. I know it's early days and the next few days are probably going to be the worst.
Any thoughts gratefully received.