...help and advice please on the subject of holidays.
Mum is aged 94, and has had Alzheimer's for 3 /4 years now..is in a good residential home, happy at times, took ages to settle ( and we even tried a different home briefly last year)but also very restless. The main problem dealing with mum's dementia is that one mjnute she is lucid and talking sense, and making perfectly reasonable requests, then switches to the opposite. She is in complete denial, or has no insight at all as to her condition. She thinks she still looks after herself adequately.
When my sister and I visit she continually asks the following
' I'd love to be in my own home, can't you find me a little flat near you?
'I'm fed up with being here..I'd love a change '
I'd love a little holiday...I haven't seen the sea for so long'
Etc etc
My sister and I have said we will have days out instead, but I am wondering if we could manage a little break near the sea. We are both very nervous of this for various reasons, what with managing her personal care(!?), and coping with her mood swings, difficult behaviour, and in particular the journey of st least 2 and half hours.
( Revitalise are no good for us...ive looked into that company..)
I was thinking how wonderful it would be if there were hotels where they catered for people with dementia ...with carers available to assist .
Or should we self cater,
Or perhaps find a lovely care home near the sea, for a week?? Mum used to live in Sidmouth .
Sorry this is a tricky one but I am.so full of guilt that we can't give mum what a few years ago would have been no.problem at all!
Thank you
Mum is aged 94, and has had Alzheimer's for 3 /4 years now..is in a good residential home, happy at times, took ages to settle ( and we even tried a different home briefly last year)but also very restless. The main problem dealing with mum's dementia is that one mjnute she is lucid and talking sense, and making perfectly reasonable requests, then switches to the opposite. She is in complete denial, or has no insight at all as to her condition. She thinks she still looks after herself adequately.
When my sister and I visit she continually asks the following
' I'd love to be in my own home, can't you find me a little flat near you?
'I'm fed up with being here..I'd love a change '
I'd love a little holiday...I haven't seen the sea for so long'
Etc etc
My sister and I have said we will have days out instead, but I am wondering if we could manage a little break near the sea. We are both very nervous of this for various reasons, what with managing her personal care(!?), and coping with her mood swings, difficult behaviour, and in particular the journey of st least 2 and half hours.
( Revitalise are no good for us...ive looked into that company..)
I was thinking how wonderful it would be if there were hotels where they catered for people with dementia ...with carers available to assist .
Or should we self cater,
Or perhaps find a lovely care home near the sea, for a week?? Mum used to live in Sidmouth .
Sorry this is a tricky one but I am.so full of guilt that we can't give mum what a few years ago would have been no.problem at all!
Thank you