Hello @Yorkshirerose and welcome to DTP.
It sounds to me as though it would be a very bad idea to take her away on holiday. She may want to go, but she cant cope with the reality of it. I would be inclined to talk about it and say you will get some brochures, but somehow keep "forgetting"

 

om @Yorkshirerose I totally agree with canary ... you can't be putting yourself. your children and her through that stress ... your children deserve a holiday with you relaxed

talk about it, look at brochures and information, plan excursions, look at summerwear .... but keep discovering that the hotel is so popular it's booked up, or is adults only or any excuse to start researching over again

and quietly have a break with your children ... sounds unkind, but your mum doesn't need to know

 

So sorry to hear your situation. I do know a friend of mine takes his wife with dementia on holidays with a company that cater for individuals with dementia & their carers. It is quite expensive but they always have a fab time. Hopefully someone on here will know the name of the company if not I can ask him when I next see him.

 

My dad wants to go back to Cyprus on holiday.I said I have no problem with that but he would have to take 2carers plus a wheelchair etc.I told him I wouldn’t be doing it..He hasn’t mentioned it since.

 

Same with my dad - when he says he wants to plan a holiday I remind him he needs to find somewhere for disabled/mobility-lacking people AND he needs to plan to take a carer - he says he doesn't even need a disabled-friendly holiday BECAUSE HE CAN WALK (he can't even weight bear) and DOESN'T need to take a carer cos he's not a baby. I change the subject.

 

such a shock and a sad time for you @Yorkshirerose ... my condolences on your loss
I appreciate what you mean about losing both your dad and your mum then ... you and your children must miss both grandparents in different ways
no doubt Christmas will be a bitter sweet time for your family

maybe this is why you've been considering a holiday ...