Should I even be thinking about taking Mum out of her care home for a holiday this summer? Her memory seems improved a bit lately due to Donepezil ( I might be imagining this though) but her awareness of her situation has also enhanced. She hasn't settled in the CH after 5 months, and I get the constant 'what did I do wrong to be in here' questions which I can't really answer to any satisfaction. I live abroad but visit Mum most months and feel racked with guilt that I am not closer and don't have the courage to bring her over to stay with me.We missed the opportunity for her to come out after my Dad died ( she had cold feet ) and I realize now that she must have been incredibly lonely in spite of having lots of friends, some of her mood behavior might've been the start of Alzheimer's which I didn't appreciate. All in the past now Mum recently has been saying she would like to come over for a holiday and I wonder if I should even be considering this unless she stays permanently. As an alternative I thought that a holiday in the UK might be better option with my OH, visiting her old childhood haunts but avoiding going back to her home ( not sold yet ). However taking her back to CH could be a heartbreaking disaster. This has been nagging at me for a while now and I am not doing anything about it. Suppose I know what the answer is but just wondered if anyone had tried this and had a good experience.