My mum (83)has been told she needs a hip replacement, we had an appointment in December last year for an assessment with the trauma & orthopedic nurse because mum has vascular dementia, the out come was, keep taking painkillers as she thought my mum wasn't up to having the operation and to be reassessed. Her next appointment was last Tuesday, the trauma nurse wasn't there and so we saw the consultant who straight away said she needs the op (which we know she does as she is in a lot of pain and forgets to take tablets) we(my sister & me) tried to explain to the consultant about mums dementia, still lives on her own, can't take or remember advice given etc etc he dismissed all we tried to say and it ended with another appointment in 3 months for another assessment. I'm hoping someone can give some/any advice on what to do next, we know mum is in pain with her hip(we've seen the X-rays)but when the consultant examind her he asked her if her foot hurt (it didn't)but now she says it does !!! Mum has always liked attention, even before the dementia, so she knows she will get more attention if she says something is more painful than it is. Sorry this is so long.