1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. Cinder

    Cinder Registered User

    Dec 14, 2014
    66
    My MILs sister is visiting.
    Tonight they went through some old photos. Although MIL remembered most of the people, the events themselves were lost. We are quite shocked as we thought she was only at the short-term loss stage. It appears she is much better at masking than we realised....


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  2. Linbrusco

    Linbrusco Registered User

    Mar 4, 2013
    1,539
    Female
    Auckland...... New Zealand
    Yes its a hard one allright. On the surface my Mum ( diagnosed with AD 2013) still seems to remember most from her childhood and growing up in Scotland talking as if itvwas yesterday, but show her a photo from her childhood she cannot even pick herself at times let alone her parents.
    I showed her an old photo of my brother and she mistook him for my Uncle that died over 20 yrs ago.
    When Mum was 20 she lived in Africa when Dad was in the Army.
    When Mum was 53 she went to Papua New Guinea to visit when my sister lived there.

    She will see a photo of the two time periods but mixes them up.
    How can she see herself as a 53yo thinking she was 20 and living in Africa?

    Now she is starting to forget who is related to who.
    Asking me the other day if her Great Aunt was her mothers sister.....( she is) If anything its this that has finally made Mums sisters and brothers realise that we are not just making Mums Alzheimers up, and she is far more advanced than they realise.
     
  3. Grandma Joan

    Grandma Joan Registered User

    Mar 29, 2013
    280
    Wiltshire
    #3 Grandma Joan, Aug 17, 2015
    Last edited: Aug 17, 2015
    Covering up

    It is quite extraordinary that even when the brain is deteriorating, it is also capable of coming up with strategies to cover up what is really happening

    My MIL has some really good answers for when she can't remember.

    If we ask her what she has had for lunch she says "oh something out of the freezer"

    If we ask her what time she got up or went to bed she says "the usual time"

    But then we realised it must be distressing for her when she knows she can't remember and covers up. So we don't ask her those kind of questions anymore.

    It is a concern though because we never know what she has eaten, but we do know what she hasn't eaten as plenty goes out of date in her fridge and we have to throw it away.

    And it makes conversation much harder as we are always striving for conversation that doesn't include challenging her on her memory. Surprising how hard that is
     
  4. stanleypj

    stanleypj Registered User

    Dec 8, 2011
    10,561
    North West
    But at least you are trying Grandma Joan. I think we all have to learn that challenging a PWD on their memory is counter-productive, even cruel. There should be no judgement involved either, it does not help to to think of it as deceitful. I'm sure almost everybody would try their best not to let people know how difficult they find something that used to come naturally. It's one of the many appalling things a PWD has to try and deal with.
     

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