1. KaC

    KaC Registered User

    Feb 26, 2006
    32
    surrey
    Hi
    just wanted to say hi
    have been feeling very low and sorry for myself without my dad but have been "visiting" TP and reading other posts

    my dad is still in hospital being assesed (for nine months!!!) and I am running out of energy trying to find a home in the councils budget that is well run and able to meet dads needs - three have turned him down or requested higher funding for one to one care - one agreed to offer a place but was awful and i think they just wanted to fill a bed
    my dad has been presented to the continuing care panel but was unsuccessful social services are going to represent him ( although the date goes further and further away) in the hope the nhs will fund him - i have found a home who specialises in challenging behaviour but of course it is out of budget
    this is how i always felt about my dad as I have never been close to my mum -
    i was always a daddys girl and miss his company, advice , smile and all the jokes we shared together - there is no one who i had this easy rapport with so much i have to stop myself thinking about him and try not to remember or think of happier times in case the grief swallows me
    i know i am luckier than a lot of other tp but the struggle to see my dad in a more comfortable surroundings and easier for me to see him - at the moment it is only once a week - when i explained to his consultant that visiting my dad 45-60 minutes away was very stressful as i am a single mum and work - her advice was to visit less often!!!:mad:

    sorry this is such a gloomy post - feeling very gloomy

    love Karenx
     
  2. KaC

    KaC Registered User

    Feb 26, 2006
    32
    surrey
    i think i have now posted this twice somehow - sorry
    karenx
     
  3. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Oh Karen, just answered you on the other thread.
    Helen
     
  4. Áine

    Áine Registered User

    hi Karen, also answered on other thread. I can relate to feeling closer to dad than mum. I'm afraid really I hated my mother ...... with good reason (don't go there!). And I can relate to the problems of having to travel a distance to visit, and balance that against home life and work. Maybe it's inevitable that we're in no-win situation.
    Maybe you just need to join in our Saturday night wine/beer chill out.

    hugs

    Áine
     
  5. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Karen
    i was closer to my dad too and to be honest I feel very lucky to have not lost him to AD(he was diagnosed with prostate cancer about 3 years ago which spread to his bones, he fell over in the town 31/01/05 and broke his arm,had it operated on,suffered a stroke on the day he was due to come home,had a heart attack a week later)....but he remained my dad,if you understand what I mean and we just grew closer and closer.....
    For you it's a terrible situation to see your dad like this.....
    I do love my mum but because I wasn't as close to her I feel more able to cope in caring for her....I find it a bit easier to distance myself a little.....don't know how I'd have coped if it was dad in this situation.....
    Love
    Wendy
     
  6. KaC

    KaC Registered User

    Feb 26, 2006
    32
    surrey
    thankyou so much for all your kind messages
    feeling brighter today
    thinking of you
    love karenx
    (had to write short message as being hassled for the computer as usual - msn!!- teenage son!!)
     
  7. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    LOL know the feeling that why I am on Late , but with me its Daughters

    pleased to read that your feeling brighter :)
     

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