Hi,
Mum has been in a nursing home now for 17months now. She is now more insecure wanting us to tell her we love her wanted to be close to her with cuddles and holding hands which is something she needs which we reassure in this. I visit 3 days a week my brother 1 day a week as be travels to see mum and dad visits 3 times a week also. So between us mum has a visitor most days. I always like I used to before mum went into the home took her out somewhere whether it be to a garden centre, into town for a coffee or to our house for the afternoon. Even though mum needed the loo quite often I made sure I could access toilets etc. As soon as we get back to the home. Mum would start yelling 'don't take me back, no ! you don't love me if you did you wouldnt do this to me!!' which cuts me up inside. So much so that I'm telling myself don't take her out anymore just stay in with mum, just watch a film or something. Then I feel guilty by not doing things that she loved doing!! but now if I don't take her anywhere I go to say goodbye and then she starts shouting oh no don't go, don't leave me!! Now it's getting to the point I'm dreading going now I know that once I'm gone she settles back down again by giving her her pencils and drawing pad but I be got the guilt that stays with me of not wanting to go..
Thanks for listening x
Mum has been in a nursing home now for 17months now. She is now more insecure wanting us to tell her we love her wanted to be close to her with cuddles and holding hands which is something she needs which we reassure in this. I visit 3 days a week my brother 1 day a week as be travels to see mum and dad visits 3 times a week also. So between us mum has a visitor most days. I always like I used to before mum went into the home took her out somewhere whether it be to a garden centre, into town for a coffee or to our house for the afternoon. Even though mum needed the loo quite often I made sure I could access toilets etc. As soon as we get back to the home. Mum would start yelling 'don't take me back, no ! you don't love me if you did you wouldnt do this to me!!' which cuts me up inside. So much so that I'm telling myself don't take her out anymore just stay in with mum, just watch a film or something. Then I feel guilty by not doing things that she loved doing!! but now if I don't take her anywhere I go to say goodbye and then she starts shouting oh no don't go, don't leave me!! Now it's getting to the point I'm dreading going now I know that once I'm gone she settles back down again by giving her her pencils and drawing pad but I be got the guilt that stays with me of not wanting to go..
Thanks for listening x