Hi
Im the "responsible adult" for my grandmother. She lives alone and I live and work some distance away but vist often to do shopping and stuff. I have POA to manage all the finances and stuff.
She is quite deaf and registerd blind but does have some sight. She also had pretty good mobility but can have some balance issues.
2 years ago the had no obvious mental issues but following a fall resulting in a broken wrist has developed issues which are getting worse.
Whilst luckily comapred so many of the cases on here it is not that advanced so she can self care to a degree it is also making it harder to get help. The have sent people out to do tests but she cant complete them because of the sight problems (which she uses to be obstructive as well). They have agreed there is some agre related dementia but unquantifed. On one occasion they insited on seeing her alone. This is a problems as sometime what she talks is reasonable but wrong, sometimes she forgets her 2nd husband or thinks by sister is pregnant (she was in past).
Other times but not when being seen by a professional the converstions will be compeltly off the wall (why is there a horse in the front room, or do you think dick turpin shops at asda )
Little lapse in memory were easily covered but its getting harder, for example she lost a sample bottle but insisted it had been stolen, or I was hiding it.
She can be very nice to strangers but really nasty to family.
She fell down the stairs but would not use her alarm thing as she was to far away from the base unit to talk to them but the would still have set someone out. She forgets how it works despite having had it for years.
Its being a issue with food preperation in that she gave herself food poising last week as she left food out for a couple days but thinks it was only hours. I found out a friend had noticed she had not got up.
My parents vist 1 or 2 times a week but arent great themselves and just cant deal with it.
I have tried various sources to get advice but get nowhere, in part becuase I live in a different area it someone elses problem.
She wants to stay independant but I feel more support is needed. I am looking at using one of the passive monitoring systems which will transmit her movements (no visual or audio) around the house to the web so I (or nominated persons) can tell she going about her daily business without intruding on what she is doing. I know she wont be keen but I think I will try to sell it on well its this or social services everyday (I know they wont as she refuses but..)
I also want to try to make her use a pill box, as we know she does not take the medication right but has always refused up to now. Any suggestions about how to do this.
You can also get talking lables for food where I can label food with cooking instructions/best before dates which will be read back if special wand (RFID reader) is passed over it. Would trying to add techology she needs to lean to use make thinks worse ?
I see the only other choice as leaving her to it knowing she really does not understand the consquences of that, and that it will result more issues for her.
I have also considered more advanced survalance but how far should you go down that route before forcing someone in to full time care ? (I know many of you can cope with full time at home care but dont have the patience, the skill set and I am providing financial support to her, my parents as well as me and my partner so that is not an option.)
I am also looking for covers to stop things being unplugged or switched off at the plug anyone know of any?
Also her house is quite old, I cant really do much preventative maintenance becasue she freaks at change but how could I get temporay care for her if say the roof blew off, or the heating bust (as I cant check her into a hotel)
Sorry for the long post been lurking a while deciding how much to interfere when
Regards
M
Im the "responsible adult" for my grandmother. She lives alone and I live and work some distance away but vist often to do shopping and stuff. I have POA to manage all the finances and stuff.
She is quite deaf and registerd blind but does have some sight. She also had pretty good mobility but can have some balance issues.
2 years ago the had no obvious mental issues but following a fall resulting in a broken wrist has developed issues which are getting worse.
Whilst luckily comapred so many of the cases on here it is not that advanced so she can self care to a degree it is also making it harder to get help. The have sent people out to do tests but she cant complete them because of the sight problems (which she uses to be obstructive as well). They have agreed there is some agre related dementia but unquantifed. On one occasion they insited on seeing her alone. This is a problems as sometime what she talks is reasonable but wrong, sometimes she forgets her 2nd husband or thinks by sister is pregnant (she was in past).
Other times but not when being seen by a professional the converstions will be compeltly off the wall (why is there a horse in the front room, or do you think dick turpin shops at asda )
Little lapse in memory were easily covered but its getting harder, for example she lost a sample bottle but insisted it had been stolen, or I was hiding it.
She can be very nice to strangers but really nasty to family.
She fell down the stairs but would not use her alarm thing as she was to far away from the base unit to talk to them but the would still have set someone out. She forgets how it works despite having had it for years.
Its being a issue with food preperation in that she gave herself food poising last week as she left food out for a couple days but thinks it was only hours. I found out a friend had noticed she had not got up.
My parents vist 1 or 2 times a week but arent great themselves and just cant deal with it.
I have tried various sources to get advice but get nowhere, in part becuase I live in a different area it someone elses problem.
She wants to stay independant but I feel more support is needed. I am looking at using one of the passive monitoring systems which will transmit her movements (no visual or audio) around the house to the web so I (or nominated persons) can tell she going about her daily business without intruding on what she is doing. I know she wont be keen but I think I will try to sell it on well its this or social services everyday (I know they wont as she refuses but..)
I also want to try to make her use a pill box, as we know she does not take the medication right but has always refused up to now. Any suggestions about how to do this.
You can also get talking lables for food where I can label food with cooking instructions/best before dates which will be read back if special wand (RFID reader) is passed over it. Would trying to add techology she needs to lean to use make thinks worse ?
I see the only other choice as leaving her to it knowing she really does not understand the consquences of that, and that it will result more issues for her.
I have also considered more advanced survalance but how far should you go down that route before forcing someone in to full time care ? (I know many of you can cope with full time at home care but dont have the patience, the skill set and I am providing financial support to her, my parents as well as me and my partner so that is not an option.)
I am also looking for covers to stop things being unplugged or switched off at the plug anyone know of any?
Also her house is quite old, I cant really do much preventative maintenance becasue she freaks at change but how could I get temporay care for her if say the roof blew off, or the heating bust (as I cant check her into a hotel)
Sorry for the long post been lurking a while deciding how much to interfere when
Regards
M