Hi everyone
I am a new member and would like to ask for some help or advice or anything really. I'm 20 and my 74 year old nan has Alzheimer's.
My nan was diagnosed with Alzheimer's by a memory clinic about 6 months ago and the doctor said she was mild-moderate so i suppose that was stage 3 or 4. I think my dad tried to tell her but she just thought he was getting on at her, as she was experiencing delusions and was hearing voices and the like. She just wouldn't listen, and was adamant she was perfectly fine and what made it worse was that her GP told her there was nothing wrong with her, and memory lapses were just a part of being old!!!! Even though a memory clinic has diagnosed her!
Since then she has become increasingly aggressive not only towards family members but to people she doesn't know. She wanders a lot and leaves her house unlocked at night. She has forgotten how to use household appliances and one time left the stove on with a teatowel on top and nearly burned the house down, but she was certain it wasn't her and that my dad had sneaked in and done it on purpose. Over the past six weeks or so she seems to have gone downhill rather fast. She is not washing or eating properly, and says she has trouble swallowing. She has lost the capacity to understand a lot of what you say to her and her speech doesn't make a lot of sense. But she still inists she's fine. She now appears to be in late stage 6 or early stage 7 as this week my dad has found out that she is having problems toileting "number 2's" properly and so immediately rang social services for advice.
We were horrified to find out that unless she gives consent she cannot go into a care home or even have daycare. I would understand this if she was in the early stages as she would understand what was going on, but how can they expect her to give consent when she doesn't really know understand what is going on, and thinks she is fine. She lives alone, and my parents both work full time. They can't afford to give up work to look after her as they are supporting my sister and I through university. My dad visits her 5 or 6 times a week but he cannot stay for long as he works long hours. We feel that she really needs 24hr care. We weren't expecting her to deteriorate so quickly and are quite shocked really.
We are at a loss at what to do as we know we cannot provide her with the care she needs, and social services refuse to help without her consent which she definitely will not give, and is basically incapable of doing so rationally.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
I am a new member and would like to ask for some help or advice or anything really. I'm 20 and my 74 year old nan has Alzheimer's.
My nan was diagnosed with Alzheimer's by a memory clinic about 6 months ago and the doctor said she was mild-moderate so i suppose that was stage 3 or 4. I think my dad tried to tell her but she just thought he was getting on at her, as she was experiencing delusions and was hearing voices and the like. She just wouldn't listen, and was adamant she was perfectly fine and what made it worse was that her GP told her there was nothing wrong with her, and memory lapses were just a part of being old!!!! Even though a memory clinic has diagnosed her!
Since then she has become increasingly aggressive not only towards family members but to people she doesn't know. She wanders a lot and leaves her house unlocked at night. She has forgotten how to use household appliances and one time left the stove on with a teatowel on top and nearly burned the house down, but she was certain it wasn't her and that my dad had sneaked in and done it on purpose. Over the past six weeks or so she seems to have gone downhill rather fast. She is not washing or eating properly, and says she has trouble swallowing. She has lost the capacity to understand a lot of what you say to her and her speech doesn't make a lot of sense. But she still inists she's fine. She now appears to be in late stage 6 or early stage 7 as this week my dad has found out that she is having problems toileting "number 2's" properly and so immediately rang social services for advice.
We were horrified to find out that unless she gives consent she cannot go into a care home or even have daycare. I would understand this if she was in the early stages as she would understand what was going on, but how can they expect her to give consent when she doesn't really know understand what is going on, and thinks she is fine. She lives alone, and my parents both work full time. They can't afford to give up work to look after her as they are supporting my sister and I through university. My dad visits her 5 or 6 times a week but he cannot stay for long as he works long hours. We feel that she really needs 24hr care. We weren't expecting her to deteriorate so quickly and are quite shocked really.
We are at a loss at what to do as we know we cannot provide her with the care she needs, and social services refuse to help without her consent which she definitely will not give, and is basically incapable of doing so rationally.
Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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She knows there is something wrong with her, but has never been officially diagnosed or treated. Grandad basically keeps her locked up in the house and refuses to face up to what is going on. My mum has contact Social Services but without his consent nothing is being done to help her.
