I have joined because my mother has Alzheimer's (and has deteriorated a lot in the past few months) and my elderly father is her carer. My dad's health is not very good and, as they live 300 miles from me, after a lot of discussion we have agreed that it would be best all round if mum goes into a care home. He was visited today by their local CPN who asked mum if she wanted to go to a home. Mum got very upset and said no. The CPN then told my dad that unless mum agrees he cannot put her into a home without getting a report from her, social services and her GP. My dad is not asking for any financial assistance so we are totally amazed at this response. My mum lost her sense of logic and reasoning several years ago so is it really up to her as to how she is cared for? Has anyone else encountered this problem and if so do you have any suggestions??