This is my first posting, although I have found lots of comfort on your site in the past.
I have both my parents living with me, mum, 81, with AD for six years and my dad who is increasingly frail at 84. We had the house adapted five years ago so they could move in instead of a 300 mile trip every couple of weeks to a house that was really unsuitable after they had both broken their hips and wrists. (Not, fortunately together!). They have settled fairly well although mum still packs to go home regularly. We're lucky that mum now has two days a week at a day centre which she seems to enjoy when she gets there, but it is quite an effort to get her ready and out of the house. I work part time but try to take dad out on one of my days off each week. I have also just found a friend's daughter to sit in the evenings so we can take dad out with us. ( Mum gets very anxious out of the house, especially at night, and everyone else has a pretty tense time, so we've decied its best to get someone in, and so far that's been fine.)
My biggest concerns are being constantly tired! (Who isn't!) and guilt about the rest of my family. My husband works extremely long hours as a teacher and is having a bit of 'career and health crisis', my children have got to the interesting teenage stage at 13 and 11, and the thirteen year old has a heart condition, awaiting surgery - and in fact has had to stay off school today. (So I am really supposed to be working from home now!)
Sorry this sounds like a long moan, but it is great to know there are people out there going through the same things.
I did want to ask whether anyone else had experienced the sort of anxiety response we sometimes get from mum - she tends to hyperventilate and / or be sick quite often and pretty much out of the blue. The only common link is that she might be worked up about something, and it does happen quite often when she's out. Is this to do with AD ? - she also has quite severe osteoporosis so is fairly bent over, which can't help.
I have both my parents living with me, mum, 81, with AD for six years and my dad who is increasingly frail at 84. We had the house adapted five years ago so they could move in instead of a 300 mile trip every couple of weeks to a house that was really unsuitable after they had both broken their hips and wrists. (Not, fortunately together!). They have settled fairly well although mum still packs to go home regularly. We're lucky that mum now has two days a week at a day centre which she seems to enjoy when she gets there, but it is quite an effort to get her ready and out of the house. I work part time but try to take dad out on one of my days off each week. I have also just found a friend's daughter to sit in the evenings so we can take dad out with us. ( Mum gets very anxious out of the house, especially at night, and everyone else has a pretty tense time, so we've decied its best to get someone in, and so far that's been fine.)
My biggest concerns are being constantly tired! (Who isn't!) and guilt about the rest of my family. My husband works extremely long hours as a teacher and is having a bit of 'career and health crisis', my children have got to the interesting teenage stage at 13 and 11, and the thirteen year old has a heart condition, awaiting surgery - and in fact has had to stay off school today. (So I am really supposed to be working from home now!)
Sorry this sounds like a long moan, but it is great to know there are people out there going through the same things.
I did want to ask whether anyone else had experienced the sort of anxiety response we sometimes get from mum - she tends to hyperventilate and / or be sick quite often and pretty much out of the blue. The only common link is that she might be worked up about something, and it does happen quite often when she's out. Is this to do with AD ? - she also has quite severe osteoporosis so is fairly bent over, which can't help.
