Hi, I'm new to TP and to being a carer. After a long spell in hospital for a urinary tract infection, my husband ( who is 28 yrs. my senior) was diagnosed with vascular dementia. Suddenly I was swamped with Social Workers and O.T.'s and my life changed overnight from being a wife to a carer. I've found this all very frightening and although I have known for about six years something was very wrong with his memory and about two years that he was getting frightened and panicky in strange surroudings I suppose the more normal times were cancelling them out and I was putting things on the back burner! Since the stay in hospital his condition seems to have deteriorated quite a bit, his mobility is returning a little, but the confusion is worse. I have managed to get some help together in the form of home care and day care, but all he really wants is to be with me. I know that I personally could not cope with staying at home with him 24/7 and although he hates the day care I am persevering and our G.P. is supporting me. I feel very cruel and selfish sometimes because he is accepting it for my sake. I'm very frightened about our future together and I hope to learn more from people on here, what I have read so far has been a great help. Sorry to have rambled on for so long, but I needed to rant I guess, thanks for listening, Chris.