Hi, I have been posting on the I have a partner with dementia and having visited the Forum again realise this one is probably better for me. My husband D was diagnosed with Parkinsons Disease in November 2010 and Alzheimers disease in February 2011 aged 57. D was and still is totally unable to accept this and thought if he took the medication he was prescribed it would all go away. He had to stop work 2 years ago when we still had a mortgage to pay and I continued to work part time, until this Christmas when we used some savings to pay the mortgage off and I retired as I realised D's health was on the decline. Over the years because of various factors and D's long shift based working hours we became friends and I now find I cannot deal with his personal care. About 7/8 weeks ago his health deteriorated to the point where I was coming home after going out to find him on the floor where he had fallen. On occasions I had to call for ambulance assistance. He also became unable to wash, shower and dress himself properly and his speech went into a sudden decline and he has now been diagnosed with dysarthria and asphasia which is why his speech is changing. On the last weekend he was at home he urinated on the bathroom floor 10 times and I couldn't take anymore. 4 weeks ago his health deteriorated so much I had to beg for partially funded Local Council Authority respite. This has now finished and D wants to stay there as we have steep stairs and his cognitive skills mean I would have to stay in 24/7. This I cannot do as I have an elderly 92 year old mother to help as well. I also have arthritis in many of my joints and a AF of the heart. Thanks for taking the time to read this.