1. Expert Q&A: Protecting a person with dementia from financial abuse - Weds 26 June, 3:30-4:30 pm

    Financial abuse can have serious consequences for a person with dementia. Find out how to protect a person with dementia from financial abuse.

    Sam, our Knowledge Officer (Legal and Welfare Rights) is our expert on this topic. She will be here to answer your questions on Wednesday 26 June between 3:30 - 4:30 pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

  1. ELANO

    ELANO Registered User

    This is my first time on the TP, and just wanted to get a few things off my chest.
    I am sooooooooo worried about my mum, who is the kindest, most caring, warm-hearted, compassionate person I have ever known, and is also my best friend, but she is also very independant !!!!!
    My mum was a ward sister at the local hospital and was used to 'nursing' others. Mum is recently retired and is 61yrs old. She worked so hard all her working life and was looking forward to retirement, until 4-5yrs ago......................My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers at the age of 58.
    My dad was brilliant at his trade, and always worked so hard...........I could go on all night about his qualities...............I love him so much.
    Sadly, this cruel illness is taking over him, and I lose a bit of my dad everyday.
    I'm 38yrs old now and I too suffer from a neurological illness.......Multiple Sclerosis.
    I have good and bad days.
    What I am trying to say is I worry so much about mum.
    Dad was put on Aricept, but his consultant has changed the tablet now to Rimanyl.
    Me and mum (and maybe dad?) have noticed quite a big degeneration recently, and 'things' are becoming increasingly difficult.
    I love my mum with all my heart.
    Is there anything we can do ?????
    Thanks for being there guys!
    ELANO
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,719
    Kent
    Welcome to TP ELANO.

    I`m really sorry you have so much worry about your parents on top of the worry about your own condition.

    As your mother was a nurse, she`ll be well aware of all the support services and know how to contact them when she`s ready.

    Until then all you can do is support your parents as much as you can and visit TP whenever you want for support and information for yourself.

    There is always someone here for you.

    Take care

    Love xx
     
  3. janetruth

    janetruth Registered User

    Mar 20, 2007
    563
    nuneaton
    Hello ELANO and welcome to TP

    It's because you love and care about your Mum and Dad, that makes you worry about them.
    Having MS yourself, means, as you say, that you have good days and bad, I expect your Parents do their share of worrying about you.
    Love is a wonderful emotion, with feelings of joy and then on the other hand can bring so much pain.
    I hope you have someone close who you can open up to, it's good to have an outlet when you need to talk.
    This is a great Forum, there are people out here who understand what you are going through.
    Everyone of us, who has had their hopes and dreams dashed by AZ are learning to accept living their lives, but differntly, one day at a time.

    I hope you will get all the support and comfort you need from TP members, we are all here for each other, because we understand.
    Take Care
    Janetruth x
     
  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london

    Sadly they not a lot that can be done after medication is given and still you see the degeneration happening

    All that can be done now is get more support for your mother , when things are becoming increasingly difficult like you say . as in respite , day-center and all that depends if your mother , father agree with it .
     
  5. mazzer

    mazzer Registered User

    Oct 3, 2007
    6
    Tootiing
    Welcome - I am a newbie as well - This is a great site and it has helped me tremendously - I only joined last week and already feel hugged.

    Take a day at a time and listen to the help and advice you get on here, we are all at different stages strugglling in one way or another with this terrible illness - we all need help and even just a hug -

    God bless

    Mazzer
     
  6. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    Hello Elano:

    To add to other comments may I suggest that you and/or your Mum contact your local organiser of the Alz. Society. If you have a good group it can be a source of advice, support and contact with others in the same situation.

    It is a hellish illness to cope with but you will get much support and help here on TP.

    Take care Jan
     
  7. elaineo2

    elaineo2 Registered User

    Jul 6, 2007
    945
    leigh lancashire
    Dear Elano.why was the medication changed from aricpet to reminyl?I am aware that cerain meds are given for the"precison" of the disease at the time of diagnosis.Have you questioned the change in meds?as far as i am aware reminyl is used to treat mild to moderate symptoms of A/Z.is this not good for you and your family.love elainex
     
  8. Taffy

    Taffy Registered User

    Apr 15, 2007
    1,314
    Dear Elano,
    Welcome to TP, I am sorry to read of your situation things must be very hard for you all. You have received some good advise here, I can only offer support and I hope that you find lots of help and advise on the best ways of dealing with this miserable disease. Regards Taffy.
     
  9. Petrus

    Petrus Registered User

    Aug 7, 2007
    61
    Northumberland
  10. ELANO

    ELANO Registered User

    THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY ELAINEO2.
    I VE JUST READ THE WEB=LINK THAT PETROV HAS GIVEN ME ON 'MEDICATION'.
    APPARENTLY, BOTH ARICEPT RIMANYL AND EXELON ARE ALL 3 USED FOR MILD TO MODERATE AZ.
    DAD/MUM GO BACK TO SEE CONSULTANT IN JUST OVER A WKS TIME, SO I WILL ASK MUM TO QUESTION THE CHANGE OF TABS, I'M SURE MUM GOT TOLD AT THE TIME THOUGH, I JUST HAVEN'T QUESTIONED THE CHANGE MYSELF LUV ?!
    ANYWAY, THANKS SO MUCH AGAIN FOR YOUR REPLY.
    HOPE ALLS WELL WITH YOU.
    LOVE 'N' HUGS
    ELANO
    X
     
  11. ELANO

    ELANO Registered User

    PETRUS..................THANKS VERY MUCH FOR YOUR HELP, I USED YOUR WEB-LINK AND GOT SOME GOOD INFO FROM THE SITE............THANKS AGAIN SO MUCH !!!
    HOPE EVERYTHING'S OK WITH YOU.
    ALL MY BEST WISHES AND LOVE 'N' HUGS TO YOU PETRUS
    ELANO
    X
     

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