Hi
I've been reading the posts for a while now and I'm seeing soooooooooo many familar stories so am hoping for some suggestions as to where to go now?
A potted history, my mum in law has always been what would be considered 'eccentric' and I believe that this has masked what has been going on for a LONG time.
Last March, after having had many fonecalls from her at all hours of the night saying that there was a man in the house stealing all her knickers (she had been a widow since 1989) we received a call from the police to say that they had had to break in because she was screaming and hollering that she couldn't get out of her room (she had been living in her bedroom for a long time by then-we don't know how long because she wouldn't let us is)
Cut to ambulance, A&E and social worker. She was discharged that night to our house with a script for antibiotics due to a UTI.
We do not have a spare room so she slept on our sofa in our only lounge, refusing to get washed/changed and being abusive to me (turns out that she thought that my hubby was her hubby, it was her house and I was the third person in the relationship' I lost the plot and ss arranged for emergency respite and assessment for her (for my sanity not hers, she was quite happy where she was)She moved that day.
She was in the residential home until mid Dec when she moved to her other son's pending completion of building work at our home to accomodate her.
The last few weeks at the home she went down quite quickly-she was refusing meals/washing and medication and was also becoming agressive.
On a discharge meeting with social services we were told that the pysch said that there was no evidence of any mental health issues-we could not believe it and were horrified that she had been there in an EMI unit if it wasn't necessary (though in reality we just didn't accept the pysch lack of diagnosis)
She is now with my brother in law,(with a temp GP)has refused to eat or drink for 2 weeks, wont get out of bed, has no idea where she is, last weekend she was 19(she is 84) Is weeing all over the place (she is again on antibiotics for UTI)won't get dressed/changed and has had several falls.
We are down there again this weekend. I can cope with her, for soem reason I have developed this calm serenity around her, I just agree and distract, if that fails I leave!
Sorry to ramble there is so much more
Thanks for reading
louise
I've been reading the posts for a while now and I'm seeing soooooooooo many familar stories so am hoping for some suggestions as to where to go now?
A potted history, my mum in law has always been what would be considered 'eccentric' and I believe that this has masked what has been going on for a LONG time.
Last March, after having had many fonecalls from her at all hours of the night saying that there was a man in the house stealing all her knickers (she had been a widow since 1989) we received a call from the police to say that they had had to break in because she was screaming and hollering that she couldn't get out of her room (she had been living in her bedroom for a long time by then-we don't know how long because she wouldn't let us is)
Cut to ambulance, A&E and social worker. She was discharged that night to our house with a script for antibiotics due to a UTI.
We do not have a spare room so she slept on our sofa in our only lounge, refusing to get washed/changed and being abusive to me (turns out that she thought that my hubby was her hubby, it was her house and I was the third person in the relationship' I lost the plot and ss arranged for emergency respite and assessment for her (for my sanity not hers, she was quite happy where she was)She moved that day.
She was in the residential home until mid Dec when she moved to her other son's pending completion of building work at our home to accomodate her.
The last few weeks at the home she went down quite quickly-she was refusing meals/washing and medication and was also becoming agressive.
On a discharge meeting with social services we were told that the pysch said that there was no evidence of any mental health issues-we could not believe it and were horrified that she had been there in an EMI unit if it wasn't necessary (though in reality we just didn't accept the pysch lack of diagnosis)
She is now with my brother in law,(with a temp GP)has refused to eat or drink for 2 weeks, wont get out of bed, has no idea where she is, last weekend she was 19(she is 84) Is weeing all over the place (she is again on antibiotics for UTI)won't get dressed/changed and has had several falls.
We are down there again this weekend. I can cope with her, for soem reason I have developed this calm serenity around her, I just agree and distract, if that fails I leave!
Sorry to ramble there is so much more
Thanks for reading
louise