Hi fizz
Welcome to TP!
fizz said:
its because shes not my mum anymore, where my mum went i dont know
of course we have no means of knowing exactly what happens to them.
I visit my wife most days and mostly she is a different person from how she always was. But some days I get glimpses of her humour, and her old self.
I believe she is still in there and the way I imagine it for myself is that she is in the same world, but has moved into a new house on her own. There is no telephone, but if I walk around the house at certain times of day on certain days, I can peer through the window and there she is!
Sometimes I can see her and talk to her through the window glass but I can tell she can't really hear me.
Sometimes I can see she is talking to me through the glass, but I can't quite catch what she is saying.
Sometimes we manage to connect and we understand each other for a few seconds. [that's a really good day]
Sometimes the windows haven't been cleaned and though she can hear me, she can't see it is me. But she still knows someone cares and talks to her.
I appreciate that many people would say all that is rubbish, but how many of those people have been in the same position, and tried to communicate over a long period? How many care enough anyhow?
I do admit it is a handy way of not feeling the need to visit, by saying "they are no longer the same person". Clearly you don't use that because, out of love, you still do visit! But many do, which is sad.
I always remember that, until someone had found the Rosetta Stone [now in the British Museum], nobody could understand the meaning of Egyptian hieroglyphics.