Henry ill, I am concerned....

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by Loopiloo, Apr 19, 2011.

  1. Bronwen

    Bronwen Registered User

    Jan 8, 2010
    Dear Loo...will be thinking of you today and pray you have a good visit and can relax a little. It is a very hard road we have to travel,and now after 9 months, I still find myself wishing.......

  2. Jo1958

    Jo1958 Registered User

    Mar 31, 2010
    Loo, hi
    I hope all is going well, you are in my thoughts today.
    With kind regards from Jo
  3. burfordthecat

    burfordthecat Registered User

    Jan 9, 2008
    Dear Loo

    I'm thinking about you and Henry today. I hope the transfer to the CH is stress free and uneventful. Today you and Henry step out on a new path. I've got everything crossed that this is the beginning of you both having good quality time together, minus the stress and upset you have had over the past six months.

    Love Carina x x
  4. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    Near Southampton
    Hi Loo - I'm hoping everything is going well today. am thinking of you.X
  5. geum123

    geum123 Registered User

    May 20, 2009
    Hi Loo,:)
    Saffie has taken the words right out of my mouth.

    Thinking about you both.


  6. maryw

    maryw Registered User

    Nov 16, 2008
    Hi Loo, also thinking about you both xxx
  7. Bastan

    Bastan Registered User

    Feb 10, 2011
    Dear Loo,

    Just adding my thoughts to others. I'll be sending you healing vibes tonight, I think it will be a tough one, relief that the hospital saga is over mixed with the anguish of letting go. We will all be here for you, let it all out.

    Never mind one day at a time, take it minute by minute and be especially kind to yourself. You are not alone.

    much love Bastan. xx
  8. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    Like the others I'm thinking of you and hoping that things have gone well. x
  9. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    Near Southampton
    Hello Loo
    I do hope your day has not been as traumatic as you feared. Maybe a bit mixed. I really want to hear how Henry's move went but I'm afraid I have to go to bed. I've been awake since 4 am and up since 6. I can't stop yawning. I'm the opposite to you I know.
    Trouble is I'll have to wait until Wednesday now. I don't know how I'm doing to cope without TP tomorrow - my birthday too, when I always feel miserable, never mind this year! Can't even find sanctuary here! Ah well, just have to grin and bear it I guess.

    Lots of love and good wishes. M X
  10. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    Just re reading your Thread and feel anxious to know how today went for you both and how you are feeling this evening.

    It brings back memories of our experience when my husband went to his Nursing Home. The staff were and are lovely but it was a hard time. I remember well the comfort of having TP to come back to each day.

    Take care
  11. together

    together Registered User

    May 25, 2010
    Hi Loo, Thinking of you and Henry. I do so hope all has gone well, all your fears and worries mirrored dad's and mine. All the small details that we are so anxious to get right, I know Dad got quite frustrated by some of my persistence on wanting to get it 'right'. Sending love Katherine xx
  12. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    I have only just got on my laptop, been trying to get here for ages but a grand-son phoned, which is an extremely rare happening, (over 7 months since last time!) and talked for Britain, about himself! Then soon afterwards a grand-daughter phoned, and talked all about herself!. Then our daughter phoned quite late, to ask about her Dad. So the evening disappeared.

    I am going to start a new thread since, as you say, Carina, from today Henry and I step out on a new path.... The subject of this thread is now outdated. But I did want to respond to all of you who wrote since I was last on TP yesterday.

    Thank you so much, your caring thoughts are a great comfort to me Bronwen, Jo, Geum, Mary, Izzy, Bastan, Saffie, Jan and everyone else who has written on this thread. You have helped sustain me and again I have to say that I don't know what I would do without you, just no words to express my deepest appreciation.

    I think the new thread will be 'Henry from hospital to care home...'

    For Henry, it went better than I feared, some difficult moments but mainly good although there were a lot of distractions for him during the time I was there with him. How he was afterwards.....

    For me, well that's another story.

    Bronwen you wrote:

    It is a hard road, and today I found myself wishing, doubting....

    After Henry being away from me for over six months in hospitals I thought it may have helped prepare me for today, but it did not. It feels so final.

    My daughter was saying something on the phone, I can't remember what now but quite casually and somewhere she said "... after all, he will be living there for the rest of his life..." and that stabbed my heart, the words keep repeating themselves in my head. So final.

    I hope so, Carina, I do hope so. But it will take time. I am so relieved that Henry is now out of hospital, half a year of his life. Thank God most of it is not remembered by him but it is still too close behind us for me to quickly forget. Some nightmares take longer to fade than others, I feel that since November everything that has happened, one scenario after another and some all together, I have not 'addressed' in full, if you know what I mean. It is all piled up in my mind and needs to be sorted out and then finally put away.

    Thank you for you for your words, Bastan:

    Yes great relief, anguish, and more. I know I'm not alone, but how sad that we are together for such reasons.

    Rather shocked by myself, I need to take your advice; one minute at a time. I don't know how you all get through this. Six months ago I would never have dreamt in my worst nightmare where we would now. I knew it was "somewhere further down the road", and even although it was sheer hell at home caring for Henry, and I had my breaking points as many of you did, and do, somehow that road seemed a long distance away. Denial or deluded complacancy...

    Jan, that sounds so like me today.

    Saffie, sorry you had a bad night, me too. Had 'an odd turn'. I was praying oh please don't let me be ill today of all days. Finally dropped off about twenty minutes before you awoke, 3.40am. Hope you sleep tonight. Me too, still do not feel good.

    I was thinking the same thing, no TP tomorrow. Your birthday too, I shall think about you, and send you belated birthday greetings.

    I'm off now to try and start my new thread, but may not make it before TP closes down.

    Thank you to everyone who has contributed to this thread, the support has been overwhelmingly unbelievable, and has touched me deeply. Thank you.

    It wont be hard to guess where my thoughts are tonight....

    With my love
    Loo xxx
  13. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    Thonking of you. x
  14. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    I`ve been waiting to hear from you Loo and all I can say is it could have been worse. x
  15. Loopiloo

    Loopiloo Registered User

    May 10, 2010
    Thanks for your thoughts Kathereen. Yes we do want to get it 'right'. Perhaps we worry too much about all the small details.

    Today I made the mistake of thinking Henry would notice this, and that, but it was other things he noticed! However for him it went well, I can only hope it continues to do so, time will tell.

    But I have the same trepidation about tomorrow's visit that I have had before every hospital visit over six months; how will he be today, will he be worse, better, the same..... However taking it one day at a time, you are right Sylvia, today could have been much worse for him.

    When he wakens tomorrow morning he will have forgotten today, so how will he feel.... One could go on and on....

    With love
    Loo xx

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