hi, i have posted before about my uncle who has been dignosed with the early stages of dementia, he is also diabetic and i go to visit and help him out if i can with my mum his main carer. my uncle is now no longer answering his phone and lying in bed all day with all his curtains drawn and windows closed. we take him shoppin every week and seem to be throwing away all the food from the previous week, he is so skeletal now, his arms no bigger than my wrists (15 year old girl) and he refuses sheltered or respite care. his doctor has told us to give him lots of high energy drinks and food but he isnt interested and says he wants to die and that if we cared we would let him. my uncle is on medication for depression and diabetes but he throws his tablets away and refuses to take them, he will sometimes shout and get angry with me or my mum if we try to intervene and the doctor says that we can call a paramedic if we are really so worried. however, we have done this beofre and my uncle ended up trying to escape and refusing any treatment, it feels like betrayal to force him to do this again when we know that he will not accept any help. i have tried to go along with his wishes but my mum is going over all the time worried how he is and when he doesnt answer his phone we dont know if he is dead or alive. i fell very helpless watching this happen knowing that there is nothing else i can do and just watching my uncle die. everytime the phone rings i wonder if its the hospital or his friend saying something has happened . me and my mum talk about it but i feel helpless not being able to help him and my mum worries that maybe if she had done something before she could have stopped this from happening. today my dad went over to find him gone, not anywhere to be found and for all we know he could be lost somewhere or confused and we cant be there to help. i know we cant be there all the time but i dont know what else i can suggest to try and help, i remember visiting my uncle when i was little and he has always been so kind and friendly, he looked after anyone he could help, and now its his turn and he needs help we are left stuck, unable to do anything.