Hi Jo, ridiculous time to be awake, waiting for teen daughter to return home from job in local restaurant. Didn't want to read and run. I understand how difficult it is to access care and to try and get help needed for your mum. Do not give up, contact your GP and explain your circumstances. Actually my Dads neighbour, rang 999, and explained that she thought Dad had, had a Stoke as he was acting out of character. She did him and me a big favour. He was admitted for asssessement, and I was not responsible!! He was eventually found a fantastic NH, by myself and SS. We are both much happier. I know he is safe and well looked after, a big weight has been lifted. Hope you and Mum are ok. You will never be alone on here. Everybody supports everybody as they understand all your problems. X