Can anyone help me out there?
My mother, who has been a bit forgetful and eccentric for a couple of years has suddenly deteriorated, after a spell in hospital. She is now in a nursing home (10 days) and diagnosed with dementia. I really don't know how to manage my own feelings. I am being strong and logical, externally, because I am the main carer and decison maker, but inside I am losing it. My job is demanding and I live 50 miles away from the home but visit regularly.
My mother has become quite a different person very quickly. She is in turn agitated, aggressive, pleasant, confused and emotional. She doesn't understand what is happening to her and isn't able to assimilate where she now is.
The home is good, with caring staff and pleasant facilities but I cannot escape a sense of great guilt that she is in a home and I also feel concerned about the other patients around her, as generally their conditions are far worse and I don't know if this is affecting her.
I just fear that I have done the wrong thing - Even thought I know she wouldn't cope on her own, I feel massive anxiety about her well being and happiness.
JHD
My mother, who has been a bit forgetful and eccentric for a couple of years has suddenly deteriorated, after a spell in hospital. She is now in a nursing home (10 days) and diagnosed with dementia. I really don't know how to manage my own feelings. I am being strong and logical, externally, because I am the main carer and decison maker, but inside I am losing it. My job is demanding and I live 50 miles away from the home but visit regularly.
My mother has become quite a different person very quickly. She is in turn agitated, aggressive, pleasant, confused and emotional. She doesn't understand what is happening to her and isn't able to assimilate where she now is.
The home is good, with caring staff and pleasant facilities but I cannot escape a sense of great guilt that she is in a home and I also feel concerned about the other patients around her, as generally their conditions are far worse and I don't know if this is affecting her.
I just fear that I have done the wrong thing - Even thought I know she wouldn't cope on her own, I feel massive anxiety about her well being and happiness.
JHD