Norman said:
Hi Gergina- cymruwelcome to talking point,you have just joined a big family.Tell us a litle about yourself,there is plenty of advice and support here.
Best wishes Norman
Thank you for the welcome Norman. I forgot to bookmark this site and it's taken me awhile to find it again. Thank goodness I wrote down my username and password! I usually forget to do it.
My father (75) was recently diagnosed with alzheimers and other forms of demetia. I don't have the full details, dad is in the care of my brother and his wife. They don't speak to me because I don't care for the way they speak to dad. It's sad enough to see my dad like this, (he's always been my hero) but hearing my nephews and nieces speaking to him in a derogatory way, (which I feel is nothing less than bullying) really annoys me...and sometimes I can't prevent myself from giving them glaring looks. They have taken dad to live with them, away from his home and his daily life. Now they are emptying my parents home, selling everything apparently to pay for dad to go to a day care centre 2 or 3 days of the week.
When the house is sold, dad is taking them all on a lovely long holiday apparently.
How nice for them all.
Dad was taken into hospital a few weeks ago with a nasty chest infection (he had quad heart bypass surgery about 10 or so years ago) When my son went to visit dad in hospital, he found my brother and family sitting by an empty bed. They told him that dad was in the toilet. After 10 mins, my son went to check the gents toilets and dad was nowhere to be seen. He had left the hospital (at 8pm) on a cold wet night wearing just pyjama bottoms and slippers. He walked to my brothers house a mile away. Looks like he went to Asda on the way because he had a plastic carrier bag with a dozen bottles of cough mixture and some anti sickness pills. (how he got them when he had no cash is worrying.
Dad is *supposed* to have a social worker but I doubt very much if this person is real. He has never contacted me even though my brother has apparently given him my name address and phone number so that I can voice my concerns about dad's care..
I could write a book on the family troubles....but at the moment, all I care about is my dad. He managed to escape from my brothers house a few days ago and he went to my son's home and asked him to telephone me and pass on a message for me to meet dad at mum's grave and to take my camera. (he gets some comfort from going to the grave and taking photo's) Dad didn't have any money, nor did he have his bus pass so he couldn't get on the bus. My son brought him to see me, which apparently messed up dad's routine. It was several hours before my brother knew dad was missing. When he heard dad was at my house, he went ballistic and accused me of causing problems because dad missed taking his medication (he told me there was no treatment for alzheimers so I had no idea dad was supposed to take regular medication. (my brother is also a liar so I don't know if he is telling me the truth,)
It's a very stressful situation, and I miss seeing dad, I know he misses me too.
Well I have my granddaughter here. She misses seeing her great grandad too.
She was with me at my parents home when mum collapsed and died very suddenly. She's only 7 years old...and she worries that the same thing will happen to my dad..
warm regards
georgie