Don't know if anybody can help me here, possibly only give opinions. My dad and I constantly clash over the care of my mum. My mum should attend a day care centre twice a week to give my dad a break. More often than not I call to see if she has got off to the club alright and dad tells me he didn't let her go because her back is sore, either that or she doesn't want to get up so early in the morning for the bus to pick her up. He then wants me at some point later in the day, when she gets up, to take her out somewhere. I do what I can but object to taking mum out when she could have gone to her club. My dad will not be forceful whatsoever with her and if she says she doesn't want to go and starts to cry, saying he's out enjoying himself when she has to go to her club, then he says she doesn't have to go. The CPN came to see her yesterday and because she was upset and told him "she wanted away from my dad" again, today he tells me she's not going to her club because she was upset yesterday and he'll let her calm down and her back's sore. I am at the end of my tether with all this fighting and on the verge of completely giving up and letting him deal with it. Phoned him back a few times this morning and he puts the phone down on me not before telling me that he doesn't care who he upsets or who he's cheeky to as long as mum's alright. I know there's no right or wrong but what do I do. I've really had enough of it. I'm sure he has too but any ideas would help. I just don't think he's handling this well at all and when I don't agree another fight starts.