Unfortunately OH not sufficiently mobile to get in or out of a bath nowadays. I certainly see the advantages. Thanks for your replyAny chance of using a bath? So far my OH still loves a bath. He was always a shower man, but I found he was not getting himself clean enough. Now after my bath I say..".yeah le'ts save water why don't you use my bath too!" As he is physically still fit at 66 to get in and out of the bath....I get a better result from the effort. I help him to get those areas I worry about smelling and cleanliness. He is still very willing and I am so grateful. But we do have a nice walk in shower on the first floor when the time comes. The nylon things sound like a very good tip @Lawson58. That is what I love about talking point...suggestion for everything.
Oh that's made me laugh. Whenever I get called "woman" I know he's beginning to get annoyedI don't know if it's what I say or tone of voice either, but it works with taking tablets and it works with showering. But that's all. With anything else all I get is "stop nagging woman".
Hi.I have just had a thought.If your husband was in the forces,the British Legion can help with the bathroom..They can help with doorways,wet rooms etc.Hi.. I'm afraid my husband is not able to follow any instructions.. Could in the past but the condition has progressed in the last few months.. Even the simplest task is beyond me explaining to him.. No way could he shower himself and wash his hair.. So I'm afraid I will have to continue to do the best I can....
Hi.. Thanks for your interest.. Unfortunately he hasn't been in the forces..and I have now strained my back and have codine pills from the doctor.. Which is making things more difficult..Hi.I have just had a thought.If your husband was in the forces,the British Legion can help with the bathroom..They can help with doorways,wet rooms etc.
Thanks to everyone who has posted on this issue.. So reassuring to know others have the same issues.. And good suggestions.. XxxAmazing that this thread is in action because this morning I seized my chance when he came down wearing his night clothes. I have stopped trying to keep him acting normal so he had his breakfast and then I said shower now. He is compliant now whereas before he was very resistant and complaining but it’s still an ordeal for both of us. So he has had a shower using olive oil soap for his skin, a pedicure and foot oil for his feet and is back in bed exhausted. Is he happy with all this spa stuff? No he is not and I guess I can’t blame him because his skin and feet are very sensitive and he squeals as if I am doing an operation. Clean clothes today as well which is also tricky. Physical weakness means that he is a semi-nursing case now.
Oh fair enough. I did mean very simple instructions as in : put the gel on the sponge, wash your armpit, now the other one...Hi.. I'm afraid my husband is not able to follow any instructions.. Could in the past but the condition has progressed in the last few months.. Even the simplest task is beyond me explaining to him.. No way could he shower himself and wash his hair.. So I'm afraid I will have to continue to do the best I can....
I rang SS & GP ( repetitively I actually got bored of doing it myself it was a long drawn out process!) as neglecting personal hygiene is part of the care package criteria.It is becoming increasingly difficult to get my OH to shower, I know this is a regular problem.
So far he refuses help but I do feel he is reaching a stage, or soon will where he needs it.
Sorry if this is a really stupid question but how exactly do you help someone to shower without getting soaked?
I have no intention of joining him in the shower as we have been through the ‘hypersexual’ stage and I do not want to go there again! (Sorry if that is a bit insensitive)
Any advise would be appreciated