Hi Everyone,
I am at my wits end.
My MIL lives with her twin sister they are 96. We have a self employed PA who is part funded b y Social Services. My MIL Altzheimers is getting worse. The carer is really now decided that she wants every other Friday Saturday and Sunday off returning on Monday morning.Thursdays MIL is at a day Centre I live 16 miles away and the other family live over an hour away. I am 75 and have just spent 2 weeks looking after MIL. My feelings are that we should get a new Live In carer via an agency which will take a lot of pressure off both families and keep MIL on an even schedule.putting her into respite every 2 weeks is just going to unsettle her my only other alternative will be a care home. Her twins family want to see about getting an agency in for those 3 days which again will just confuse her.My feeling is that a complete change of live in carer will only unsettle her the once . They dont appear to realise what this does to her. If I decide a care home is the only option as her POA will anyone be able to go against me . MIL doesnt know who I am anymore just thinks I am a carer, There is a lovely home right on my doorstep wher I could see her very often. Can anyone stop me if I take this alternative. The carer is just so impossible to deal with and continuously is making demands
I am at my wits end.
My MIL lives with her twin sister they are 96. We have a self employed PA who is part funded b y Social Services. My MIL Altzheimers is getting worse. The carer is really now decided that she wants every other Friday Saturday and Sunday off returning on Monday morning.Thursdays MIL is at a day Centre I live 16 miles away and the other family live over an hour away. I am 75 and have just spent 2 weeks looking after MIL. My feelings are that we should get a new Live In carer via an agency which will take a lot of pressure off both families and keep MIL on an even schedule.putting her into respite every 2 weeks is just going to unsettle her my only other alternative will be a care home. Her twins family want to see about getting an agency in for those 3 days which again will just confuse her.My feeling is that a complete change of live in carer will only unsettle her the once . They dont appear to realise what this does to her. If I decide a care home is the only option as her POA will anyone be able to go against me . MIL doesnt know who I am anymore just thinks I am a carer, There is a lovely home right on my doorstep wher I could see her very often. Can anyone stop me if I take this alternative. The carer is just so impossible to deal with and continuously is making demands