Hi to everyone having read a number of posts its good to feel you are not alone .I care for my father who has vascular dementia and would welcome any advice on feeding dad for a while now have been losing weight and having trouble getting him to eat we have tried smaller meals more often different types of food some with success and other with not the nurse did give us some supplement drinks to try and she advised to contact the G.P for more if dad would drink them which we did only to be told they were no longer available he did suggest giving him nibbles beside him which we do anyway not for the first time feeling let down by the lack of advice or help from my dads doctor we carried on but the eating got worse so i rang the doctor again he told me they do not like to give these drinks out as they are very expensive but he would get them in a nursing home that was it i was watching my dad waste away , i asked for another doctor to do a home visit today at midday i got the call from the doctor who was comming asking what the problems were of which i told him he did not see the point of coming out to see dad as he would only say the same as the first doctor basically i feel i have been told tuff get on with it bring him into the surgery if you want to of which he knows he cannot walk to get him in and out the car the only way is for me to lift him without any lifting aids , of which social services have told me not to lift him as i will damage my back but that was back in october how they think he can get to the toilet or shower without me lifting him is beyond me .Sorry if i have gone on its just i feel so angry with the way our elders are treated we lost our 10 year old son to cancer a few years ago i can only say the treatment doctors ,nurses etc were second to none .Thanks for you all letting me air my views and wish you all well for 2008.