Hi, I'm new to this so Baer with my mum has vascular dementia, and other health problems and has been living with me,my husband and 18 year old daughter since December 15.
I'm really struggling with what to say to her when she asks to go home as she has an answer for everything, doesn't remember that she has health problems so can't see why she can't go home as she thinks she's doing great! She can get quite nasty about this and says I'm lying! Slams doors! screams! Then it starts all over again after 10 minutes! She also doesn't remember eating and drinking so is constantly saying either we're all lying about her having breakfast/dinner ect and we're starving her! Or she thinks she's in a care home and the cares aren't feeding her! Saying I don't care cos if I did I'd report" them" and take her home! I'm at my wits end with this as it's consistent battle to settle her down about this! Since she's been here I've had 2weeks respite and have booked another 2weeks starting next week already!! but the social worker asked what I'm going to do if I keep needing respite like this but I not ready to put her in a home just yet any advice would be much appreciated thank you
I'm really struggling with what to say to her when she asks to go home as she has an answer for everything, doesn't remember that she has health problems so can't see why she can't go home as she thinks she's doing great! She can get quite nasty about this and says I'm lying! Slams doors! screams! Then it starts all over again after 10 minutes! She also doesn't remember eating and drinking so is constantly saying either we're all lying about her having breakfast/dinner ect and we're starving her! Or she thinks she's in a care home and the cares aren't feeding her! Saying I don't care cos if I did I'd report" them" and take her home! I'm at my wits end with this as it's consistent battle to settle her down about this! Since she's been here I've had 2weeks respite and have booked another 2weeks starting next week already!! but the social worker asked what I'm going to do if I keep needing respite like this but I not ready to put her in a home just yet any advice would be much appreciated thank you
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