Mum has a meeting arranged with her cpn and her Social Worker Team, I am not sure how this team differs from the one social worker,
The CPN , would be a great help to you for advice in how to handle any challenging behavior you may have with your mother .
Don't feel threaten by them , CPN only they to help you cope with your mother, if you have any
question write them down . any thing that worrying you in how to help you mother , write it all down so you can ask him/ her the
questions . your in control not them , as you are your mother Main carer.
They can't make you or force you to do anything, that you don't feel that would befit your mother or yourself
how can I make this go as smoothly as possible for us all? can I say no we will manage without you thank you, until one of us cant go on coping, and will they be able to arrange a carers assessment for me?
You can say what you like , in saying that . but think clearly before saying that ! as you may be making a rod for your own back ( if you don't mind me saying , also
In expecting they help now it avoid getting to the stage you both can't cope , so better to forward plan, if they offering the services now . if only for your own mental physical health in the future . Just that I always thought I could do it all on my own . I could not . I know you may be different
Have you move in with your mother yet ?
Or has your mother moved in with you ?
From your last post , it does sound like your mother dementia progressing
So her needs are going to get higher on you , you do need to think of yourself to find time for you.
That's where SW can help you . Unless you may have other family to help you give you a break?