Yes I would say from looking back at my own past with my mother not diagnosed with AD and my brother with his mental illness , I wish I had know that there was a carer group like the
http://www.carers.org/local/
They can offer so much advice in how to look after yourself, while you are under so much stress, who is the main carer for your brother?
Sadly yes it got to the stage that my mother was so bad that I made an appointment and just took her to the doctor , told her it was due to her diabetic . doctor who took one look at her , listen to what I was saying in front of my mother , by that point I did not care how upset mum got in what I was saying to doctor .
doctor dismiss mum , when she got angry, but I think she understood what was happening to her , even thought I never and referred her to the elderly consultant and got the roll rolling from there .
My mother keep saying why did I not cover up for her, now I understand that her perceptions of thinking was not working right due to the AZ .
Because if she was thinking right, she would of seen what I was doing was wanting to help her
So the more you tell your dad that he not well, criticise him when he does something wrong the angrier his going to get with you and not listen and not listen anyway , because that side of perception in his brain is being affective with the disease that is going on in his brain .
That’s why it is important that you get help , with your own stress in handling all this, my theory and 4 years of caring for my brother and mother is that if you recognise your own stress , your be able to help your dad and brother , it you want to that is , don't forget you do have a choice.
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Yes I did find it all confusing with social service and 'multi-agency approach’ like tender face said.
The link above well deal with your needs, if you’re a career anyway, but more so if you’re a career for someone with mental illness, and do offer counseling and then there MIND.
Does your brother have a CPN ? as I found Him very helpfull with advice for my mother and my brother
For AZ information it seem that left to the AZ society , who do not offer so much therapeutic therapy to the career to help with the stress , because of un funding ( in my area anyway ) but can offer day center , when the time come.