Hi everyone, I’m looking for some help please!
In short, my Mum has been showing progressively stronger signs of dementia for 4 years. Without going into too many details she has been anxious, suspicious, aggressive for a long time and in the last 18 months has wandered and got lost several times, doesn’t recognise her husband as her husband, thinks she is on holiday in Switzerland and wants to go ‘home’ each day to see her mother (who died 30 years ago), unpacks her clothes into Sainsbury’s bags every day, recently said she had to drive to Chester as she has been asked to play for the England women’s cricket team and on and on and on. My dad is going spare (his words) and tells me he now understands why husbands kill their wives. He’s a mild man. Meanwhile she refuses to get assessed, shreds hospital letters inviting her for an assessment and the GP refuses to help since she won’t allow it. Sooner or later one of them will try to kill the other. Do we really need to wait for such an extreme event to get our Covid disrupted, cash starved services to help? The police and fire brigade have been involved several times but nothing triggers a diagnosis. Dad is proud and self-reliant but he desperately needs help. Hence this post. Any ideas please? Many, many thanks.
In short, my Mum has been showing progressively stronger signs of dementia for 4 years. Without going into too many details she has been anxious, suspicious, aggressive for a long time and in the last 18 months has wandered and got lost several times, doesn’t recognise her husband as her husband, thinks she is on holiday in Switzerland and wants to go ‘home’ each day to see her mother (who died 30 years ago), unpacks her clothes into Sainsbury’s bags every day, recently said she had to drive to Chester as she has been asked to play for the England women’s cricket team and on and on and on. My dad is going spare (his words) and tells me he now understands why husbands kill their wives. He’s a mild man. Meanwhile she refuses to get assessed, shreds hospital letters inviting her for an assessment and the GP refuses to help since she won’t allow it. Sooner or later one of them will try to kill the other. Do we really need to wait for such an extreme event to get our Covid disrupted, cash starved services to help? The police and fire brigade have been involved several times but nothing triggers a diagnosis. Dad is proud and self-reliant but he desperately needs help. Hence this post. Any ideas please? Many, many thanks.