I am in a quandary...
My father is in hospital and my mother does not know. Both have dementia and both are in the same care home. Staff at the care home feel its best not to tell her even though she is looking for him and saying she doesn’t know where he is. I think it would better to tell her he is in hospital and therefore she will know he is not in the home. Of course she will forget so might have to be reminded but at least in her lucid moments she will know. The care home obviously have more experience in dealing with PWD’s but I can’t get my head around the fact that they think it’s better not to tell her.
I went along with it today and now feel terrible that I haven’t told her where he is to put her mind at rest and wish I had gone against their advice.
Anyone else faced a similar situation??
My father is in hospital and my mother does not know. Both have dementia and both are in the same care home. Staff at the care home feel its best not to tell her even though she is looking for him and saying she doesn’t know where he is. I think it would better to tell her he is in hospital and therefore she will know he is not in the home. Of course she will forget so might have to be reminded but at least in her lucid moments she will know. The care home obviously have more experience in dealing with PWD’s but I can’t get my head around the fact that they think it’s better not to tell her.
I went along with it today and now feel terrible that I haven’t told her where he is to put her mind at rest and wish I had gone against their advice.
Anyone else faced a similar situation??