Help over sectioning

[Bunty123]

i wonder if anyone can give me some advice?
My husband who has dementia is now in a home. He has become very aggressive to other residents and also the staff. He spends most of his days talking utter rubbish as he continually hallucinating. He really hasn't a clue where he is. He tried to come downstairs naked last week with his pyjamas on his head. He used to be a full time artist and last week the home sent me a picture of him in a bib painting sploges. They obviously want to stimulate him but it's just not happening. The second painting he tried to eat.
There is an aura of aggression surrounding him and the other residents are very wary of him. The manageress of the home has asked my daughter not to bring her baby with her, for fear that he might harm him.
He has completely shredded his room, tried to take the radiator of the wall, strip the wall paper torn all the photos and shredded his duvet.
I feel strongly that he is in danger of harming himself as well as others and he needs more specialised care. What should I do?
He is soo poorly I think this is an NHS problem and that I shouldn't be asked to pay for his care anymore?
Please, is there any advice out,there for both myself and him........

 

[Bunty123]

Sorry the title should have read

Help over sectioning
I'm obviously very upset!!!!!!!

 

[Mark_W]

Not a problem I've just edited that for you. Hope others can help you with their experiences.

 

[Jessbow]

Are they suggesting sectioning? Scarey as it sounds, it might actually be the best thing that could happen !

He'll get the help that he needs and deserves, as well as funding- sectioned care is, I believe , funded .

its sounds awful but isn't nessesarily so

((Big hug for you ))

 

[Louise7]

I was just about to post the same thing and ask if sectioning has been suggested as it isn't mentioned in your post. Has this behaviour just started recently? I think that your husband needs a full medical review to determine the cause of the behaviour (the aggressiveness could be pain/infection related). If it is felt that sectioning is the best way for this to be carried out then I think it would be the best thing for your husband. I don't have personal experience but others on here have and have posted to say that sectioning was the best thing that could have happened in terms of getting the right help/medication.

 

[jaymor]

I’m very surprised that the care home have not asked for your husband to be assessed as to his needs right now. Sectioning is a medical decision not one we as Carers can make. You do not say what type of care home he is in. It maybe that he needs a different home that specialises in challenging behaviour. Such homes have a higher ratio of staff and in some cases give 1:1 care. Your husband is really struggling, I hope you get the care he needs soon.

 

[Bunty123]

Sorry the title should have read

Help over sectioning
I'm obviously very upset!!!!!!!

I’m very surprised that the care home have not asked for your husband to be assessed as to his needs right now. Sectioning is a medical decision not one we as Carers can make. You do not say what type of care home he is in. It maybe that he needs a different home that specialises in challenging behaviour. Such homes have a higher ratio of staff and in some cases give 1:1 care. Your husband is really struggling, I hope you get the care he needs soon.

He was assessed in March by a male nurse who said he only had one severe Catagory, but since then he has rapidly declined
The manageress hinted at sectioning and on Tuesday she said that 3/4 of her thought it was the route to go down however, she doesn't want to let his family down!! She is now suggesting that we have a reassessment in October but I think it should be immediate. He is in a dementia care home...

 

[Bunty123]

Are they suggesting sectioning? Scarey as it sounds, it might actually be the best thing that could happen !

He'll get the help that he needs and deserves, as well as funding- sectioned care is, I believe , funded .

its sounds awful but isn't nessesarily so

((Big hug for you ))

I have this awful gut feeling that the powers that be want him to remain in the home so that I will still be paying... Am I paranoid???

 

[Bunty123]

I’m very surprised that the care home have not asked for your husband to be assessed as to his needs right now. Sectioning is a medical decision not one we as Carers can make. You do not say what type of care home he is in. It maybe that he needs a different home that specialises in challenging behaviour. Such homes have a higher ratio of staff and in some cases give 1:1 care. Your husband is really struggling, I hope you get the care he needs soon.

I like the saying about waves....

 

[jaymor]

I have this awful gut feeling that the powers that be want him to remain in the home so that I will still be paying... Am I paranoid???

You can ask his present home to put him forward for a Continuing Health Care Assessment to see if your husband might qualify. Then of course the NHS pay for his care.

If he does not qualify there are special nursing homes that specialise in challenging behaviour, my husband was in one for 4 years. There were far more staff than in an ordinary nursing home so residents were much easier to care for and watch. With more staff your husband would not manage to do so much damage and have more staff to interact with him.

Thank you for your remark about my signature.