Hi
My mum has just gone into a care home permanently, she has dementia, one doctor said it was alzheimers and another has said it's vascular dementia, so we don't know which it is! Mum also had very bad arthritis, she has it all over and isn't very mobile, dad cared for her for as long as he could, but it came as such a shock when they offered her a permanent room, we wasn't expecting it for about another year, and we are both feeling it, dad especially! It's as if she has died somehow, it's such a strange feeling and very sad, dad is lonely, although mum went into respite every 6 weeks for a week or two, I suppose it prepared him for the inevitable. He has gone from being her carer 24/7 to doing nothing...................
He really misses her and yet he gets so upset when he goes for different reasons, but mainly it's when he has to leave her there, he feels sick and has a cry. I was told by someone last year that there are groups who meet up for a chat etc, can someone tell me where in York it is, or would someone be able to go and see him at home first,because I don't know if he would actually go on his own the first time, I work full time and my partner is disabled at the moment, so I am unable to go with him.
I would appreciate someone replying to me, although this is my first time on this website, I'm not sure of how it all works.
Thank you for your time
My mum has just gone into a care home permanently, she has dementia, one doctor said it was alzheimers and another has said it's vascular dementia, so we don't know which it is! Mum also had very bad arthritis, she has it all over and isn't very mobile, dad cared for her for as long as he could, but it came as such a shock when they offered her a permanent room, we wasn't expecting it for about another year, and we are both feeling it, dad especially! It's as if she has died somehow, it's such a strange feeling and very sad, dad is lonely, although mum went into respite every 6 weeks for a week or two, I suppose it prepared him for the inevitable. He has gone from being her carer 24/7 to doing nothing...................
He really misses her and yet he gets so upset when he goes for different reasons, but mainly it's when he has to leave her there, he feels sick and has a cry. I was told by someone last year that there are groups who meet up for a chat etc, can someone tell me where in York it is, or would someone be able to go and see him at home first,because I don't know if he would actually go on his own the first time, I work full time and my partner is disabled at the moment, so I am unable to go with him.
I would appreciate someone replying to me, although this is my first time on this website, I'm not sure of how it all works.
Thank you for your time