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I need some help and i dont know where to start.. I am a married mum of two and my grandad (75) has been diagnosed with Vascular Demetia for two years now...My Gran and Grandad live together and things are now going down hill really fast and my heart is breaking... Grandad is fully mobile and in control physicly at the moment but his memory loss is really bad now he is struggling with every day to day tasks i take for granted and my gran is getting extremly frustated with him... I myself have worked as a care assistant in a nursing home and a Auxiliry Nurse in a Cardioligy Ward and have seen Dementia first hand but when it comes to my grandad i am at a lose-i am trying my hardest to help but my gran is a very independent women and will not accept help, i go around nearly everyday to check on them and to visit and support them to my best ability but i can now see now that things are deteriating fast, for example putting things away in wrong cupboards, giving gran two knives at tea time, not knowing how to do simple tasks etc etc, but gran is getting angry and to scared to say anything to him as he is at the stage where he gets frustrated to and its heartbreaking to see this as thats not my grandad... Gran doesn't keep to well either she has type2 diabete's and has a tummy bug this week and its very apparent she is expecting to much from grandad--i have been cooking for them, well i say cooking i have been 'helping' grandad i don't want grandad to feel i am treading on his toe's as he feels he is a failure as gran is not letting him cook now... Gran makes him get the pension and paye the bills woth the payment cards and he doesn't understand and gran gets angry, grandad puts the shoping away9all in the wrong places and she gets frustated) i think she is exhausted to as my granny is a loving and caring person, she doesnt have a bad bone in her she doesnt shout at him but little things she says he picks up on and he doesnt understand he is doing these things.. How do i get her to accept my help, i am more than willing to do her shopping, paye her bills etc etc but how do i not hurt her feelings and make her feel a failure--because i know she isnt but she will think she is!!!!! I am scared for them both, i want to do more for them please help...Who profesionaly can i speak to... I have cared for lots of patients with this but when it comes to grandad and gran i am at a lost... I hope i have made sense to you all it feels like i have droned on and on i heop someone can give me some advice
I need some help and i dont know where to start.. I am a married mum of two and my grandad (75) has been diagnosed with Vascular Demetia for two years now...My Gran and Grandad live together and things are now going down hill really fast and my heart is breaking... Grandad is fully mobile and in control physicly at the moment but his memory loss is really bad now he is struggling with every day to day tasks i take for granted and my gran is getting extremly frustated with him... I myself have worked as a care assistant in a nursing home and a Auxiliry Nurse in a Cardioligy Ward and have seen Dementia first hand but when it comes to my grandad i am at a lose-i am trying my hardest to help but my gran is a very independent women and will not accept help, i go around nearly everyday to check on them and to visit and support them to my best ability but i can now see now that things are deteriating fast, for example putting things away in wrong cupboards, giving gran two knives at tea time, not knowing how to do simple tasks etc etc, but gran is getting angry and to scared to say anything to him as he is at the stage where he gets frustrated to and its heartbreaking to see this as thats not my grandad... Gran doesn't keep to well either she has type2 diabete's and has a tummy bug this week and its very apparent she is expecting to much from grandad--i have been cooking for them, well i say cooking i have been 'helping' grandad i don't want grandad to feel i am treading on his toe's as he feels he is a failure as gran is not letting him cook now... Gran makes him get the pension and paye the bills woth the payment cards and he doesn't understand and gran gets angry, grandad puts the shoping away9all in the wrong places and she gets frustated) i think she is exhausted to as my granny is a loving and caring person, she doesnt have a bad bone in her she doesnt shout at him but little things she says he picks up on and he doesnt understand he is doing these things.. How do i get her to accept my help, i am more than willing to do her shopping, paye her bills etc etc but how do i not hurt her feelings and make her feel a failure--because i know she isnt but she will think she is!!!!! I am scared for them both, i want to do more for them please help...Who profesionaly can i speak to... I have cared for lots of patients with this but when it comes to grandad and gran i am at a lost... I hope i have made sense to you all it feels like i have droned on and on i heop someone can give me some advice