Not sure where to begin. Got lots of questions to ask…
Have been having a terrible time these past few weeks.
Aggression IS REALLY back…. CPN involved A LOT MORE now (2 x week).
Drugs not working … STILL having to be careful as they interact with seizure drugs.
LOTS of ‘talk’ of me having to be hurt…asking to be hurt… needing to be hurt.
He has said... "If I wanted to kill you.... it wouldn't be a difficult thing...."
Up until that 'comment' I WAS coping (as well as anyone could)...
Now I have a broken heart.
As usual (for me) my useless in laws are of no help. They seem to think the aggression is OK.
MIL ‘suggested’ “Why can’t you just hurt him back ? !!’
Explained that it will only fuel the aggression…. They are not in the least bit worried for me….
I have told them I am scared of my husband…. A lot of the time……
Other ‘problems’ much worse…
Has been getting lost in our home …. Sleeping ‘pattern’ all over the place.. up and down all night…
Not recognising some foods… “Do I like this’ … Have I had it before?” … Christmas Dinner !!
Incontinence worse …. Mobility worse… Forgetting he has eaten / taken medication …. Daily!!
Trying to ‘walk’ without his stick, as he has forgotten he uses one…. more stumbles.
Generally ‘disturbed’ more by ANY light / sound / smells …. Misinterpretation of my tone of voice ….
HATING some people on TV… has to be switched off …
Refusing to eat as he will ‘choke’ …. Then asking me to feed him….
DOES NOT BELIEVE A SINGLE WORD I SAY ….Including telling him the time!!
BIGGEST ‘PROBLEM’ … THE STORY TELLING HAS SERIOUSLY ESCALATED…
He has told his Social Worker that I have stolen all of his money … as well as a lot of his possessions.
Husband is NOW ready to go to the POLICE !!
He does not believe the Bank Statements…Or the On-Line banking records .. Or the Mini Statements
He has made up this REMARKABLE seriously detailed ‘story’ that he and his 4 brothers are multi-millionaires ,
and that the bank would go-under without their money !!
He does not have 4 brothers … Nor is anyone remotely well off / rich !!
THE SOCIAL WORKER HAS PROMISED HIM THAT SHE WILL SORT THIS OUT FOR HIM…
WILL TAKE HIM TO THE BANK ‘PERSONALLY’ … TO GET HIM SOME ANSWERS.
I’ve given him all the answers that are TRUE and REAL ….
Taken him to the bank… Still does not believe anything anyone says….
I must have sent it off shore then….!!
He will not quit till he FINDS this money.. and the only other thing he can do is have me arrested… apparently….
So…. Needless to say my head and heart have been all over the place…
I’ve cried buckets of tears… and now I don’t know what to do next…..
NEED HELP AND ADVISE PLEASE?
I know that it is ‘time to say goodbye’ to this current life of mine… and move on in the next few months..
I STILL LOVE MY DEAR HUSBAND … But he is just too much for me to handle….
One of my questions is…
“What happens in the Nursing Home when my husband starts ‘talking’ about all this non – existent money?”
We will be self funding for a while till the money ‘runs out’ (I WILL HAVE TO SELL THIS HOME).
Thanks for letting me rant a little….
Take Care.
A very sad DaisyG
Have been having a terrible time these past few weeks.
Aggression IS REALLY back…. CPN involved A LOT MORE now (2 x week).
Drugs not working … STILL having to be careful as they interact with seizure drugs.
LOTS of ‘talk’ of me having to be hurt…asking to be hurt… needing to be hurt.
He has said... "If I wanted to kill you.... it wouldn't be a difficult thing...."
Up until that 'comment' I WAS coping (as well as anyone could)...
Now I have a broken heart.
As usual (for me) my useless in laws are of no help. They seem to think the aggression is OK.
MIL ‘suggested’ “Why can’t you just hurt him back ? !!’
Explained that it will only fuel the aggression…. They are not in the least bit worried for me….
I have told them I am scared of my husband…. A lot of the time……
Other ‘problems’ much worse…
Has been getting lost in our home …. Sleeping ‘pattern’ all over the place.. up and down all night…
Not recognising some foods… “Do I like this’ … Have I had it before?” … Christmas Dinner !!
Incontinence worse …. Mobility worse… Forgetting he has eaten / taken medication …. Daily!!
Trying to ‘walk’ without his stick, as he has forgotten he uses one…. more stumbles.
Generally ‘disturbed’ more by ANY light / sound / smells …. Misinterpretation of my tone of voice ….
HATING some people on TV… has to be switched off …
Refusing to eat as he will ‘choke’ …. Then asking me to feed him….
DOES NOT BELIEVE A SINGLE WORD I SAY ….Including telling him the time!!
BIGGEST ‘PROBLEM’ … THE STORY TELLING HAS SERIOUSLY ESCALATED…
He has told his Social Worker that I have stolen all of his money … as well as a lot of his possessions.
Husband is NOW ready to go to the POLICE !!
He does not believe the Bank Statements…Or the On-Line banking records .. Or the Mini Statements
He has made up this REMARKABLE seriously detailed ‘story’ that he and his 4 brothers are multi-millionaires ,
and that the bank would go-under without their money !!
He does not have 4 brothers … Nor is anyone remotely well off / rich !!
THE SOCIAL WORKER HAS PROMISED HIM THAT SHE WILL SORT THIS OUT FOR HIM…
WILL TAKE HIM TO THE BANK ‘PERSONALLY’ … TO GET HIM SOME ANSWERS.
I’ve given him all the answers that are TRUE and REAL ….
Taken him to the bank… Still does not believe anything anyone says….
I must have sent it off shore then….!!
He will not quit till he FINDS this money.. and the only other thing he can do is have me arrested… apparently….
So…. Needless to say my head and heart have been all over the place…
I’ve cried buckets of tears… and now I don’t know what to do next…..
NEED HELP AND ADVISE PLEASE?
I know that it is ‘time to say goodbye’ to this current life of mine… and move on in the next few months..
I STILL LOVE MY DEAR HUSBAND … But he is just too much for me to handle….
One of my questions is…
“What happens in the Nursing Home when my husband starts ‘talking’ about all this non – existent money?”
We will be self funding for a while till the money ‘runs out’ (I WILL HAVE TO SELL THIS HOME).
Thanks for letting me rant a little….
Take Care.
A very sad DaisyG