Help! I could do with some advice! Not sure if I'm posting this in the correct place but a little confused how to use the site at the moment sorry! I could really do with some advice as my mum has dementia but has not yet been diagnosed. She point blank refuses to go to the doctors and we have managed once to get her to go to the memory clinic where they did the memory test on her. She didn't score very higly but after the test she got really upset and cross and said there was nothing wrong with her so why were people doing 'this' to her?? Somebody then went to the house and she again got irrate and has mentioned the 'man with the case' again and again since then. A Mri scan has been arranged several times for her but she just cries and refuses to go saying, "Why are you all doing this to me? There's nothing wrong!" My poor dad who is 75 but fairly fit, is finding it so upsetting himself and mum is taking most of her anger out on him! Mum always did everything in the house and dovoted her life to bringing us up when we were kids then looked after my two children when they were young and I worked, so she has only ever been a house wife and mother and doesn't have any other interests. She gets cross when dad tries to change the bed sheets for example but she no longer does it herself. Also the main cause of upset at the moment is getting her to wash and bath. Dad has tried all approaches but she ends up screeming at him and often running to me or my husband crying saying he's telling her shes dirty. She even runs a bath sometimes and pretends she got in but doesn't. Dad is so concerned as she does often smell now and he's worried about infection. She is not at the stage where we could wash her as she is still very able and won't accept help. She is so different to the mum and wife we've always known and we're finding really hard to help her as she is in total denial. Can anyone offer me advice please???