Help i am frightened for tomorrow

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by bel, Aug 8, 2006.

  1. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    I am sorry for being a pain i know i am in the wrong place but for all my joking ---we have never been in court before its not just that but bless him hubby will want to say a few things and poeple the public do not understand i know they think its just memory loss and at times he sounds like he knows what he is on about but i dont want them to confuse him which is what happens when you ask the question again
    sorry i am trying to imagen all your arms around me for support i know they are there i will try tomorrow to think the same sorry again
    love Bel x
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,586
    Kent
    All the best Bel. I`m sure everyone will be thinking of you. Try to let the Court know your husband`s condition. He`s not a criminal and deserves some respect.
    If he becomes confused, speak to an Usher or any officer and explain the situation. Do not be intmidated. Be as strong as we all know you are.
    Looking forward to hearing how you get on.
    Grannie G
     
  3. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    787
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear Bel,
    we ARE thinking of you. If you read this in time, why don't you prepare a short explanation about your husband's condition in writing, perhaps more than one copy, which you could discreetly pass on to one or more relevant people if necessary. If you don't need the note, then so much the better.
    I hope you both get plenty of support in court tomorrow.
    Best wishes!!
     
  4. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Bel, endorse evrything Nan has said.

    Be strong, stand up for you and hubby. Keep imagining our virtual hugs.
    You will be OK.......just have that 'feeling'

    Love,
     

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  5. Norman

    Norman Registered User

    Oct 9, 2003
    4,348
    Birmingham Hades
    Bel
    all godd advice,but do somehow make your Husbands condition known to the court.
    With you in spirit
    Norman
     

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  6. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    #6 dmc, Aug 8, 2006
    Last edited: Feb 1, 2007
    hi bel

    good luck tomorrow, im sure you'll do fine, i agree with the others that perhaps you ought to make it known about hubby's condition, but good for him in wanting to try bless him

    love to the both of you were all with you in spirit
     
  7. Tender Face

    Tender Face Account Closed

    Mar 14, 2006
    5,379
    NW England
    Bel, I'm embarrassed I can't do those 'hugs'!!! But yes, there will be many virtual arms around you tomorrow..... I agree with what others have already said ..... hubby's 'condition' should and must be made known.... (and damned well applauded for his as well as your courage tomorrow)

    Best of luck, will be thinking of you....

    Love, Karen (TF), x
     
  8. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    share a hug!!

    hi TF
    you can share my hug if you want its big enough, im amazed its there anyway:eek:
     
  9. May

    May Registered User

    Oct 15, 2005
    627
    Yorkshire
    Another hug

    Hi Bel
    Thinking of you both, do let the court people know how your hubby is (ie; can get confused and why), we've said it before they're just like us so don't be scared by them. Sending you a hug {{{}}} (can't do the fancy ones :confused: ) . Will be thinking of you tomorrow.
    Take care
     
  10. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Bel
    Don't be frightened.....just imagine that all of us on TP are there right alongside you....we're all going to be there in spirit!!!!
    Good Luck
    I can't do the hugs either .......this is the best I can do:-

    .........HUG.......HUG.........HUG........HUG......HUG......HUG........HUG........HUG......!!!

    Love
    Wendy
    xx
     
  11. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    Thank you all so much for your support

    Did i tell you about how it went in court soory but i had a few too many wines
    Love Bel x
     
  12. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    NO were all waiting to hear
    how did it go ???
     
  13. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    and is you drinking wine a good thing or bad:eek:
     
  14. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    Sorry for sounding like a fool for fogeting

    Dear all
    Sorry for not remembering wheather i told you or not i had too much to drink it was an awful day had to wait in court for 1 hour before being called i am just an ordinary person no snob but there was a lot of really unsavory charecters there understandibly a lot of security i thought at our time of life to be sitting here i was having pains in my chest and shaking like mad i thought if they dont call us soon i am literaly going to have a heart attack hubby bless him was his usual self joking being daft which is good i had to be brave for him our solicitor sent some one else to represent us we knew this might happen he called us in to a side room went through a few things with us then as i knew he would hubby starts going on about all the past history with who was at fault with the loft i do not like embarasing any one in front of some one else so i held his hand we always do that and let him have his say he was a nice guy so was a bit patient he agreed it was not fair but we were not here to argue the case it has to come down and thats that hubby would not stop bless him we were going to miss our slot plus solicitor was looking to me for help i had to say nicely i dont know wheather you are aware hubby has dementia and i explained a bit about his thinking he did not know I THINK THIS IS BAD HE SHOULD OF BEEN TOLD i had to calm hubby down in front of him we were called soon after as i have said we always hold hands walking in to court was awful about 10 people in there all were ok i think but the one that did most of the talking to us and ordering us about was --being kind a l bas----- i cant say any more about how we felt it still hurts to be continued
     
  15. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    Continued

    No Donna drinking wine is not a good thing
    Any way out come was to pay councils costs nearly 800.00pounds back to court on 13th September if they are happy when they take it down we might not be fined it could of been worse so when we got back hubby agreed whole heartedly lets have a liquid lunch and we talked and talked held hands as usual and both felt a lot better
    i wish i had seen your lovely messages of support before we went i would of done a few notes about hubby illness
    i can not tell you all how much it means to me to have your support
    Love Bel x
     
  16. dmc

    dmc Registered User

    Mar 13, 2006
    1,157
    #16 dmc, Aug 10, 2006
    Last edited: Aug 11, 2006
    oh bel
    i am sorry i was really hoping you were having a wine to celebrate, :(

    im so sorry you both had to go through that,
    just goes to prove how unjust this world is when you have to sit in court with "real criminals"
    i think its disgusting!!
    take care bel and hubby xxx
     
  17. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Me too
    It must have been awful for you
    Take care both of you
    Love
    Wendy
    x
     
  18. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    787
    Buckinghamshire
    Unfair, ghastly, awful - I am hopping mad on your behalf, but that doesn't help you much. Just can't believe that a Court can put you both through all that, when there are thousands of people out there who deserve to be put in their place for all manner of things. It is soooo frustrating!

    Well done for taking such good care of hubby. I think you are a star! Please keep us posted.
     
  19. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
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    Thanks A Million All I Do Not Know What I Would Of Done Without You
     

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