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Help I Am Desperate

Discussion in 'ARCHIVE FORUM: Support discussions' started by bel, May 22, 2006.

  1. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    I AM NEW TO TP
    and i am so glad i found it
    But i am like you all finding it so hard
    DO I TRY TO HARD TO MAKE HUBBY FEEL GOOD ABOUT HIMSELF ---SORRY
    LOVE BEL X
     
  2. Amy

    Amy Registered User

    Jan 4, 2006
    3,453
    Hiya Bel,
    How are you doing? It must be so hard for those of you who are caring for a partner 24/7. All you can do is your best. You cannot make your husband happy all the time, you cannnot take away his confusion and anxiety. You can be aongside him, and do your best to let him know that he is still loved and valued.
    Have you had a bad day today?
    Best wishes, love, Amy
     
  3. mel

    mel Registered User

    Apr 30, 2006
    1,656
    Sheffield
    Hi Bel
    i hope you are ok....There is absolutely NO need to say sorry....you are doing your best but you MUST NOT run yourself into the ground.....I'm really with you as are so many others
    Take care
    Wendy
    x
     
  4. Margarita

    Margarita Registered User

    Feb 17, 2006
    10,824
    london
    Hi bel

    Don't forget to look after You its hard I know ,Care to share a littlie more with us :)
     
  5. May

    May Registered User

    Oct 15, 2005
    627
    Yorkshire
    Hi Bel
    Sorry you're having such a difficult time. Come back and share your story with us if you can, as the old ad used to say, 'It's good to talk' and TP'ers are great at supporting and spreading the loads we all carry.....
    Take care
     
  6. DickG

    DickG Registered User

    Feb 26, 2006
    558
    Stow-on-the-Wold
    Hi Bel

    Life is a bitch when you are caring 24/7. I am sure that like the rest of us you are doing your best, no one can ask more of you. Yes sometime we all try too hard and often the harder we try the worse thing become. Love yourself a little and do not be too hard on yourself.

    Hugs

    Dick
     
  7. Áine

    Áine Registered User

    hi bel

    i'm glad you found TP. it's a good place to be when you're struggling with stuff like this. don't apologise for how you're feeling ..... most of us have been there and most of us will be back there at some point :(

    hope you call back and let us know a little more about what's happening.

    best wishes

    Áine
     
  8. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    I Am Desperate

    Thanks to every one
    for there kind words it does help to know you are not alone and i know there are a lot more people here a lot worse than me
    I need to feel i am giving back as much as i am getting from tp
    I KNOW ITS WRONG
    TAKING IS NOT WHAT I AM USED TO
    so if there is any one with silly problems i am here :)
    love Bel x
     
  9. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Bel, of course you are giving back to TP.

    I am sure whenever we post a 'problem', someone out there thinks "thank goodness I am not alone".

    Join in whenever you feel like it, no pressure. Good to have you around.
     
  10. Áine

    Áine Registered User

    ah ..... it comes with practice bel :) ....... and I'm guessing from the little you've said that your hubby is having to learn that lesson too. perhaps your learning to feel OK about receiving care will help him to feel better about his need to accept care too??

    when i get hung up about taking/ asking for/ receving help, I think about the pleasure I get from helping others. don't deprive those around you of the pleasure of giving ...... it all evens out in the end :)

    that's not to say that I don't agree with connie ........ just being here is giving something back.

    best wishes

    Áine
     

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