Can anyone help? Can anyone help? I was adopted by my grandparents and call them mum and dad. My mother is in a nursing home. Sometimes she doesn't know who I am and I am unable to have a conversation with her. My father and I were extremely close and he died 3 years ago. I went very depressed after he died and miss him now. I feel as my mum (grandmother) is getting worse and that I am loosing her too. I am the only regular visitor and find it very difficult sometimes. She has been ill for the last 5 years. Another close family member doesnt visit her hardly and we are not on good terms. My natural mum is mentally ill and I visit her too and take her to the home. Can anyone help?