My Partner and myself moved in to my mothers House over 3 years ago to care for my mother who is 92 and has mixed dementia , Alzeheimers and poor mobility.
we have tried our best to care for her and run businesses of our own,we are both in our early 60's and unable to retire.
My mother goes 4 days a week for day care which she says she hates but we know different, she refuses her medication and food most of the time and just about everything is a no !
she is very negative,Depressive,schizophrenic and manipulative
she is also being difficult with her carers who come in 4 mornings a week telling them our business and how we do not care for her.
My mother hates my partner with a vengence and the time has come where she either needs full time care in her home ( which she could not afford) or go into a care home neither of these things she will accept and she is doing her best to destroy our relationship we feel the time has come for us to move out before it cracks us both up.I am concerned that while I have power of attorney to manage her financial affairs I do not have the power to say where she will live or the type of care she has.
Previous advise from a solicitor has left us even more confused about our rights!
We asked for an mental capacity assessment but our social worker is useless he has no idea about how it is 24/7 for us or my mother and says she is fine at home even though she has been quite capable of burning herself with a kettle and locking herself out of the house when on her own.we cannot leave her alone at home.
this is not taking care of her best interests.
we just need some legal guidance and help before our relationship and sanity is gone and we are unable to help my mother further.
we have tried our best to care for her and run businesses of our own,we are both in our early 60's and unable to retire.
My mother goes 4 days a week for day care which she says she hates but we know different, she refuses her medication and food most of the time and just about everything is a no !
she is very negative,Depressive,schizophrenic and manipulative
she is also being difficult with her carers who come in 4 mornings a week telling them our business and how we do not care for her.
My mother hates my partner with a vengence and the time has come where she either needs full time care in her home ( which she could not afford) or go into a care home neither of these things she will accept and she is doing her best to destroy our relationship we feel the time has come for us to move out before it cracks us both up.I am concerned that while I have power of attorney to manage her financial affairs I do not have the power to say where she will live or the type of care she has.
Previous advise from a solicitor has left us even more confused about our rights!
We asked for an mental capacity assessment but our social worker is useless he has no idea about how it is 24/7 for us or my mother and says she is fine at home even though she has been quite capable of burning herself with a kettle and locking herself out of the house when on her own.we cannot leave her alone at home.
this is not taking care of her best interests.
we just need some legal guidance and help before our relationship and sanity is gone and we are unable to help my mother further.