I have been a member for a long time but havent posted very often as I read with interest all other threads. Mum who is 86 lives with me and my family and she is very lucky to have us all with her and up till now I did feel I was coping with her short term memory and several urine infections. But this weekend we had some sad news that her very sick brother had passed away, we managed to see him just 3 days ago. We were very close and I thought of him as a father.As soon as I got the news I told Mum and she was very upset and we hugged each other. Then a few hours went by and she had a sleep and came and had dinner as usual and nothing was said, during the evening I said it had been a very sad day and she didnt have a clue what I was talking about so we had the same conversation as the afternoon,then accused me of not telling her, which I am not surprized about. thing is I have had this happen several times today and feel i cant take any more as I want to grieve for my Uncle and find it impossible at the moment.Just want to ask should I KEEP telling her or try and not talk about it until the funeral is near.I do understand about her dementia but this is a real tough one and she is so sure that I dont tell her things and getting news second had. Sorry for a first long post